is a sensual / HE massage considered cheating while in relationship?

Apple qwerty boy
Oct 2 81 Comments

Conflicting thoughts on above topic. My sexual desires are higher than my spouses. Sex life is fine but i still feel a bit unsatisfied . Have a high stress job and travel quite frequently and have this urge to get a massage, release my tension and go back to my wife more rejuvenated.

i havent done it yet as my mind still thinks its a form of cheating, but i see articles where sex therapy and this form of service has actually helped couples improve sex lives. I feel i want to do it once as i never experienced this ( even before marriage) and get it out.

What do u guys think ?

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TOP 81 Comments
  • Oracle Sockets
    Wtf is HE massage?
    Oct 2 8
    • Oracle Sockets
      So massage by a male auto includes something sexual?

      Wtf
      Oct 2
    • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
      Yeah... You ever got a massage from a dude? Definitely the most sexual experience of my life. Straight tho
      Oct 2
    • Oracle Sockets
      @weed

      Hell no to a male masseuse.
      Oct 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Wtf guys HE = happy ending 😂
      Oct 2
    • Oracle Sockets
      @amazon
      Oh, shite. I know it by rub n tugs.
      Oct 2
  • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
    Only one person can answer that: your SO.

    For some couples this would be fine, others it wouldn't. If you can't honestly talk to her about it, it's probably not okay.
    Oct 2 2
    • Lending Club NbpS28
      This
      Oct 2
    • ActiveCampaign marsbar5
      Came here to say what you said perfectly. Cheating occurs when the other person doesn't know what's going on, or doesn't feel comfortable with what's going on. Swingers aren't cheaters, bc both people are on board.
      Oct 2
  • New / Mktg
    SrZeroCool

    New Mktg

    PRE
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    SrZeroCoolmore
    that you have low T..... I mean TC
    Oct 2 6
    • New / Mktg
      SrZeroCool

      New Mktg

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      SrZeroCoolmore
      A few minutes of your life controls you. Get more TC and go fill your mind with other things
      Oct 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Buddy good point, but since u brought that up for the record I make more money than 95-98 % of folks on blind. I don’t want to brag and that’s not what I want to do here either. More TC is not what I’m chasing
      Oct 2
    • Microsoft DedCntr
      Every man thinks his is bigger than the average. But accepting the reality is the first step. Come out in the open and tell. You'll feel a lot better. I am still talking about TC.
      Oct 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Seriously TC chasers are no different than sex or alcohol addicts. Money is an addiction too if u allow it to control you which I see here. Like I said I am happy where I am with my TC. I really don’t care if u or others have higher TC than me.
      Oct 2
    • Amazon SysRq
      This is blind. TC or GTFO
      Oct 2
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Cheating is entirely based on whether or not you're hiding it from your SO. Fucking a hooker isn't cheating if your wife is okay with it.
    Oct 2 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Which wife would be ok with that? Problem is women are emotional and us men more practical. We don’t want to hurt them. Like I said I’m definitely not fucking or even oral .
      Oct 2
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      open relationships are a thing, and prostitutes / mistresses are definitely looked at differently in some countries like Japan. But yeah, it's an unreasonable hypothetical, just trying to make a point.
      Oct 2
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Also, even if your SO is okay with it, it's still a terrible idea because eventually the novelty of an HE will go away and you'll want more, maybe a CBJ, then afterwards start thinking about BBBJ, eventually CFS and hopefully never BBFS (you're already past the point of no return w/ your SO at this point, but now you're putting your health and her's at risk)... all of which your SO will obviously not be okay with.
    Oct 2 6
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      HE = Happy Ending (handjob)
      SO = Significant Other (spouse)
      CBJ = Covered BJ (fellatio w/ condom)
      BBBJ = Bareback BJ (fellatio w/o condom)
      CFS = Covered Full Service (sex w/ condom)
      BBFS = Bareback Full Service (sex w/o condom)
      Oct 2
    • The moment blind turns to isg
      Oct 2
    • Make account in isg, the holy Grail of cheating
      Oct 2
    • New / Supply/Log Villane11e
      Plz take this as a compliment. You can not be a straight dude.
      Oct 2
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      Plz take this as a compliment. You are stupid.
      Oct 2
  • NVIDIA
    Ram Mandir

    NVIDIA

    BIO
    Yeah
    Ram Mandirmore
    Damn, I dont even get an erection without being in love. Poor me.
    Oct 2 10
    • Apple Brahmasmi
      Where do you get a blue pill?
      Oct 2
    • Microsoft / Manufacturing __Ranveer
      Dude brahma should know where to get all the pills in all the different worlds
      Oct 2
    • Apple Brahmasmi
      Well Gochi didnt work for me.
      Oct 2
    • Facebook / Eng
      XTeR76

      Facebook Eng

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      XTeR76more
      That's what Viagra is for. It's magic. Just ask your doctor. It might be harder to finish, but oh boy, the fun your partner will have!
      Oct 3
    • Apple
      MrSwole

      Apple

      BIO
      Stronger and more jacked than you 💪🏾💪🏾
      MrSwolemore
      Probably a sign of ED and/or lack of libido. Getting and maintaining an erection is a sign of health. However, lack of libido due to low testosterone, high estrogen, etc can reduce occurrence of erections
      Oct 3
  • TriNet fIxi66h
    It is not cheating, go get it. Once you get it you will feel like shit and stop it because it really is not that great and you will realize how impersonal it is
    Oct 2 3
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      I guess it depends on service and Masseus. Just like there are good average and bad engineers, likewise in this profession too. Well what do I know ?
      Oct 2
    • TriNet fIxi66h
      Go get it and circle back
      Oct 2
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      do the needful and revert back*
      Oct 2
  • Facebook hdoen
    As a girl, I would 100% not be ok with it. Consider if your wife got an equivalent massage as well. Isn’t that weird?
    Oct 2 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Agreed. But I guess women statistically have less of these fantasies compared to men so they seldom seek externally . Not all men are fortunate to be fully satisfied in a monogamous relationship .
      Oct 2
    • New / Mktg
      SrZeroCool

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      SrZeroCoolmore
      You're using statistics to validate your behavior? 😂
      Statistically men cheat more so sounds like we need to cheat
      Oct 3
  • Amazon LostAtC
    Talk to your spouse. Mine is fine with HE as long as it’s not with the same girl multiple times.
    Oct 2 0
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    • Oracle hey1
      Indian??
      Oct 4
    • Oracle Sockets
      The fact it took you 'couple years' to accept it says a lot.

      I think you've been hoodwinked and/or are insecure.
      Oct 4
  • Amazon sdml7
    Visit Montreal. ‘Nuf said.
    Oct 2 2
    • Dell LUHV04
      What’s in Montreal ?
      Oct 2
    • Amazon sdml7
      Nuru
      Oct 2
  • Facebook wwvv
    You don’t want to get an STI and give it to your SO and that be the way SO finds out
    Oct 2 5
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      Can you get STI just by a HJ?
      Oct 2
    • Facebook wwvv
      Sure, consecutive HJs
      Oct 2
    • Facebook / Other b1gswndik
      How old are you? Did your highschool not have sex-ed? This is scary.
      Oct 2
    • Facebook wwvv
      Herpes virus lives on surfaces up to 3-4 hours
      Oct 3
    • Amazon a84&
      You can also get HPV from that kind of contact. Which you can then give to your wife. Which can potentially cause cancer for her. Don’t believe me? Look it up.
      Oct 3
  • Amazon Shadowe
    Hmm — ask yourself why must someone else do it instead of yourself?

    Therein lies your answer.
    Oct 2 2
    • Apple qwerty boy
      OP
      How can I massage myself ?
      Oct 2
    • Uber acet
      😂😂

      i <3 Blind
      Oct 4
  • Symantec NGge16
    Ask your spouse for permission. If you get permission: lucky you.

    If you don't get permission: don't do it or it's cheating.

    If you get dumped because you expressed you want to do this: I guess your values are not aligned.

    If you are afraid to ask for fear of getting dumped: re-evaluate your priorities. Try giving yourself a hand job while you are traveling. Just don't cheat.
    Oct 2 2
    • Rover.com / HR looking4rc
      Hand is cheating! /s
      Oct 2
    • Symantec NGge16
      LOL.

      OP: In case you're actually wondering: self-service isn't cheating.
      Oct 2
  • Oracle AppleSour
    There is one life , do what you like and chill
    Oct 2 1
    • NVIDIA cWpi47
      Basically this ^
      Oct 2
  • Indeed / Eng uhyff
    Are you ok of your wife had a Happy ending massage? The answer to that should be your answer
    Oct 3 0
  • Indeed satisfise
    Less cheaty than if it you weren't paying for it. More cheaty than not doing it at all.
    Oct 2 0
  • Amazon Nsgdbp
    You wrote somewhere on this thread OP, that women are emotional and men are practical. Would you be practical about your wife getting a massage where a male masseuse also helps her come at the end, happy ending?
    Oct 3 2
    • Apple
      MrSwole

      Apple

      BIO
      Stronger and more jacked than you 💪🏾💪🏾
      MrSwolemore
      He may be ok with it. It’s not as uncommon as you think for men to want their woman to be satisfied by another man. Especially if they get to watch. Seems to be more common in the tech sector from my experience. 😀
      Oct 3
    • Symantec NGge16
      Perhaps it's because they hope to learn a thing or two.
      Oct 3
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    • Apple / Eng MrSwole
      Good advice. However, time is money. For some men the valuable time spent ‘running game’ could be used for something more productive like increasing their net worth. I’m not speaking from experience but just a thought. 😀
      Oct 2
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