mom is in india by herself. i’m looking for recommendations for old age home in bangalore. (tc 250k) serious replies only thanks
Piece of $hit
Come on man, there have to be better solutions than a old age home in India. Don’t you know India is a dump for services like these. If it was an old age home In US that would have been different. Why don’t you bring your mother to live with you, don’t you have siblings who can share the responsibility of your mother? She can rotate living with each kid. Don’t you have any other family that can be supportive? Anything but an old age home can be a better viable solution. Don’t do this to your mother.
I suggest you go and have a look at the services offered by private old age homes (not talking about the government run), mind you these cost anywhere between 40-80k per month. Even if OP lives with her his family will always be busy and not spend quality time Old age home will provide her a group of friends and a host of activities
Ok, maybe I am biased because I don’t really know a lot about private old age homes in India. I still have a hard time believing they really take good care of your parent. Yes, of OP and his spouse both work full time jobs then elder care is very challenging. I am open to change my view on this but still it feels very cold and uncaring to leave your parent in an old age home
OP go back to India. The surplus money you are earning here is not worth it. You can always come back to USA. Spend some time with her.
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guys! relax, don’t get too emotional. i genuinely want to improve her quality of life. this is a stop gap measure until a more permanent plan is in place. she was the one who suggested the idea of old age home.
A mom would say this to keep her son happy but just ask her if she can move to US and she would not deny
Don’t shrug off your responsibility by using the escape measure that she was the one who suggested it. If she will suggest mercy killing in really old age would you do it?
OP - All the above replies are BS. My father moved to a old age home after my mom passed away and he loves it. I have my own apartment with all facilities, he visits us in US but loves his ood age home the best, reason he has people of his age to talk, activities arranged for them etc. Unfortunately I don’t know any in Bangalore but find out a good private one.
Ungrateful yet boasting about it. Shameless and spineless. Traded his father for a GC.
Shameless. World, here is the problem with educated Indians. The search for happiness in $$$ and find reasons to skip responsibilities. Your dad wants you to be happy irrespective of how unhappy they are. Ask him whether he will be happy to stay in old age home, if you are also staying in the same city.
For shame OP! For Shame
Fuck you judgmental assholes. OP; sorry I have no recommendation for you. But don’t be deterred by these
+1 WTF people?
That is exactly the reason there is another thread on blind asking pros and cons of having kids. Frankly if I have to live in old age home I would not fo for raising kids just to get dumped in the old age.
If you want kids for the reason that they will be physically there living with you and take care of you when old, then Yes you are better off getting a good retirement savings plan.
@Red99 - just cause you're ungrateful to your parents dont twist other people's words. If you help kids grow up and nurture them it's only fair to expect a little bit in return during old age.
Go back to India. Don’t send her old age home. That’s all I will request.
Yes, don’t you have a heart? She should have thrown you into garbage when you were born. You are nalayak.
Don’t judge people, will ask you when you are in a similar situation