i feel overwhelmed doing simple tasks

Jun 18, 2021 14 Comments

I feel overwhelmed to do things like ramping up on a new project, codebase, language anything. in sde role, i learnt that you have to be constantly learning everyday and be agile and comfortable with changes. this has taken a toll on my mental health and i dont think i am a good fit for the role. I wouldn't say i am burned out. basically i am looking for a job where i dont have keep learning so much or deal with so many changes or be expected to be competitive and look for bigger challenges. I find stability in structure and routine. I have tried therapy. The therapist doesn't understand the stress of software job. #mentalhealth #depression

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  • I experience something similar. I think you are looking at anxiety IMO. Trust yourself, you are smarter than you think. Be open with your manager about your struggles even if you get a bad review. I have learnt that it takes me about 6 months to start getting comfortable in a role so I donโ€™t put too much pressure on myself. If my manager/company does not have a culture to help me grow after the first 6 months or year, then it might not be a good fit. Anyway practice WLB, no work outside of work hours, sleep, healthy nutrition and work on creating psychology safety and ask dumb questions. You will wake up one day and things will start making sense
    Jun 18, 2021 1
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    I had same. Best solution, go for 1 hours workout ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™€๏ธ could be running ๐Ÿƒ, donโ€™t miss even single day. And do intermittently fasting, 15hr to 24hr. Be with positive people, do LeetCode one a day u will get more confidence.
    Jun 18, 2021 1
  • Most therapists are clueless if not charlatans. They cannot imagine how intellectually difficult is designing a system or debugging. Add constant deadlines and interruptions. Itโ€™s very difficult to operate in this environment.

    Try a couple of medications as a stop gap measure. Most of them are bad too and have weird side effects. Donโ€™t depend on medication for too long - withdrawal can be hell. Use meditation to normalize breathing, but donโ€™t think it can solve all your problem.

    But long term, focus on investing for FIRE and gtfo from tech. Itโ€™s a terrible place to be in your 40s if you like structure.
    Jun 18, 2021 0
  • Easy enough. Go to a government contractor. RAYTHEON, Lockheed, L3Harris. You will be working on old and stable tech. It's not necessary boring, not all of it anyways but it is not cutting edge either, work is super stable, and usually not super stressful as it is supported by taxes and you could work 40 years on the same tech.

    Downside is you should expect a significant pay cut from comercial.
    Jun 18, 2021 0
  • Adderall
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