Am I insane to quit my 400k remote job?

May 23, 2019 356 Comments

Director at current company, managing a dozen of engineers. Due to stock appreciation, TC 400k. I only work 6 hr/day if not traveling. Mainly remote, in a low COL area. Travel is about once every other month.

I was happy until a recruiter reached out to me on LinkedIn. I went through the interview with FB, and they offered me 600k after a few rounds of negotiations, and placed me on a team in Seattle.

My gut feeling tells me it’s not worth it, but the difference is not trivial (130 diff post-tax) and I never had FANG on my resume.

What would you do?

Update based on questions in replies:
- I am in my early 30s, have 1 kid and plan to have more.
- I was offered M1 (E6) position, and the team owns a critical product feature.
- I don’t have allies at VP level, so don’t expect fast growth in either current company or FANG.
- out of 400k, 100k is due to appreciation.



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TOP 356 Comments
  • Amazon mhwn82
    130k is not worth working 15 hours a day. You won't even feel the difference in salary.
    May 23, 2019 22
    • Facebook chromeo
      15 hours a day??? 🤣🤣🤣
      May 28, 2019
    • Facebook VHwj68
      I would say on average most people do 40-45hr/wk at FB.....
      Jun 1, 2019
  • Microsoft 🐁Pinky😜
    If TC is your only reason to change then I think you should stay where you are. There are more important things in life than money. Do what makes you happy, and it sounds like you're happy with where you are now.

    I learned that lesson when we had our first kid. I also work remotely. I was working crazy hours, but each night I would take 6-8pm to spend time with him, then I'd go back to work.

    One day I turned around and saw him doing something new developmentally. I realized that I was working 10 feet from him but in my current path I wouldn't know him.

    I was in negotiations with FB at the time, and my TC would have jumped by about 100k. But I knew I'd have to keep working the crazy hours if I moved there.

    So I said fuck it. Family is more important than $$. I told my manager at Microsoft that I was cutting my hours to 50-60 per week. He didn't like it, but I didn't care.

    I have 0 regrets about my decision. Every evening I take a couple of hours to really play with my wife and kid. We go for walks, I'm able to give him his bath and read his books at bedtime and tuck him in.

    I meant what I said about no regrets. 0. None. Period. Family life is much more important than an extra 100k a year.

    I just consider myself blessed that I have enough TC now to make that decision. Most people in America can't do that.

    So do what makes you happy man. If an extra 200k will do it for you then take the job. If not, be grateful that you're making much more than most people in America do, and stay where you're at 🙂.

    OK, that's the end of my lecture lol.
    May 23, 2019 13
    • Facebook / Eng gisret
      Bsjdo it's a problem because 1) it's unsustainable and people will burn out 2) by peer pressure it will create bad team culture and others will leave the team, and no one will want to join if rumor is that my team is bad for wlb
      May 27, 2019
    • New / Design Yesterday-
      Fuck that. I’m working maybe 40 hrs a week... I don’t get paid more or less.

      Why kill myself when my hustle doesn’t get me anymore money but only my company?

      Hustle for yourself not others.
      May 27, 2019
  • Twitter hodgesodge
    What do you value in life?
    May 23, 2019 4
    • Nutanix hmbsjc1
      Wow, Conan the Barbarian. It’s been decades since I last heard that quote.
      May 27, 2019
    • Facebook deus
      The original genghiz khan quote involved more than just hearing lamentations from the women...
      May 29, 2019
  • Amazon ¥£€
    You can always make money but you can never get time back. Life is not about who can make it to the finish line with the most money. It is about living the journey to the fullest. If you are comfortable and have a good work life balance than keep it. The time you spend with your family will hold higher value than the extra money you make moving to the new job. There will always be FAANG companies to move to later. But remember moving to this type of company comes with a heavy price! Happiness comes from a balance. Work to build your relationships at your current company. If you don’t have strong allies at VP level you will get eaten alive at a FAANG. Honestly, it appears you still have a lot to learn in your current position. Use this time and situation as your growth opportunity. You will be further ahead in the long run.
    May 27, 2019 3
    • Salesforce nocturn
      May 27, 2019
    • Zscaler SkbF56
      You nailed it!! 👏🏻
      May 27, 2019
  • The only constant is change. You are not going to have this job forever, and when it’s time to move on you may not find anything else worthwhile. Also staying at a chill job for too long can diminish your prospects. I would say consider if this job is the next step for your career- we would all like to chill in a great wlb job forever, but in our field that is not an option. Better to accept it sooner than have a rude awakening later in mid-life.
    May 27, 2019 6
    • T-Mobile / HR

      T-Mobile HR

      Change is constant but that doesn't necessarily apply to one's career every time a new job with more money comes around. I f that we're the case, one could change jobs every year and that also has tremendous negative potential.

      But to your point, whether a job change is required or not, one must always continue learning - stretching - growing...preparing for the next step. But that doesn't mean the next step is always the job that pays more.
      May 27, 2019
    • Adobe jjjx12
      Your concern now is health insurance? Jesus Christ.

      I will admit that this could end up costing like $40,000 per year at the end, but tack on another year or two and he's got that covered.

      Worst case, OP retires to Costa Rica with a healthcare plan there if he can't get benefits from Starbucks in a pinch.
      May 27, 2019
  • Airbnb fanyad
    I make 600k and would give that up for a 400k remote job in a heartbeat
    May 27, 2019 3
    • Twilio lxKU38
      No you are not making 600k. You have paper money
      May 27, 2019
    • New thunda
      Chillax, his money is technically paper but you can’t treat Airbnb RSUs as a zero either lol. It’s probably most accurate to value it at near face value
      May 27, 2019
  • Amazon new_ew
    Money wise... Do you need the extra money?
    Career wise... Sure it would be nice to have FAANG on your resume in general, but how old are you? Would you wanna come back to the easier job you have right now?
    May 23, 2019 6
    • Amazon new_ew
      Doesn't sound like it's worth it then honestly.
      May 23, 2019
    • Facebook / Eng

      Facebook Eng

      Love the term "heart bit" 😃
      May 27, 2019
  • New / Eng

    New Eng

    I'm a generalist soft eng who loves to work on hard tasks and open-source. I have experience in many domains (low-level, web, data science, security, etc.).
    Will you have the same growth opportunities at F?
    May 23, 2019 6
    • Pure Storage meemeep
      Everyone's gonna stop advancing at some point. Is it that big of a deal?
      May 27, 2019
    • Hulu ImUI66
      @Pure it's not a big deal, but it sounds like OP actually does want to advance.
      May 27, 2019
  • LinkedIn ixBS46
    Can i have your current job if you quit?
    May 27, 2019 3
    • Braintree BTGuy
      May 27, 2019
    • The Home Depot FPQk51
      Jul 30, 2019
  • Nordstrom 420Nordie
    Interesting, you can make director and manage a bunch of engineers, but can't make your own mind up about a new job.....

    I smell bullshit
    May 27, 2019 2
    • Indeed ind00d
      I think he's made up his mind but just wants some validation
      May 27, 2019
    • Facebook / Eng SegTree
      @ind00d: Or she, potentially
      May 27, 2019


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