As a female software engineer how do you assure your male co-workers you are not a "risk" to work with?
Many men in the workplace are showing new aversions to working with female employees. As a software engineer this worries me as many of my male co-workers are people who have incredible knowledge and experience and I'd like to learn from them. I am a fan of mentorship (me being mentored or me mentoring others), knowledge sharing, honesty, and joking / sarcasm / other typical male banter and/or horsing around. I would prefer if men kept their sex lives with their wives private and refrain from commenting on the hotness of the 20 year old they saw in the subway to themselves but I won't shame them or report to HR. I guess anything except for actual sexual harrasment is fair game in my eyes. Even joking about sexism or whatever Is probably fine and I won't find it super uncomfortable especially if it's something that I'd find humorous myself.
Anyway the point is I've seen a lot of anonymous polls and forums discussing how men will begin to retaliate against #metoo by avoiding women in the workplace! Now I just find this rediculous. Ok if you're a kind of guy who can't help but sexually harass or assault women in their presence maybe it's justified but otherwise you're basically assuming all women claim sexual harrasment when there is none? Or you're just worried that there's a risk involved even if all women don't or won't? Then how do I signal to you I'm not a risk?