I'm * introverted * don't want to be the annoying person loudly advocating for themself * don't have connections with the important people in our own * can't stand ass kissing * always get misunderstood by my manager cuz our 1:1 is 90% him speaking Is there hope for me to get recognized / promoted?
Just communicate your concerns
Tell him to shut the fuck up and listen for once
It's tough. Currently facing similar challenges. But I've decided corporate isn't my end goal. The ladder growth doesn't motivate me. I'm looking for different things to do in life for motivation. Tech is exciting enough to work for as a mid senior position for long and not worry much about it promo
Fwiw. If your manager doesn't understand introvert vs extrovert, then theres no point being stuck there. Get a mentor, learn few tricks, play them, leave if it doesn't work out
^^ Strong agree on the second point. Good managers can 'get' your communication style
You need to find a manager who understand you (as a person) and understand your strengths.
This. Even if you aren’t interested in the rat race, you’ll feel better about yourself and about life if you enjoy your 1:1s and your manager gets you. Not all jobs / managers are the same. Find your best match.
Keep moving unless you find a good fit. No point staying in a job with a bad manager.
It's not about being an introvert. It's about being a victim. It's out of your control to get recognized, until you start doing something for this. I understood what you don't do to get promoted. Now it's time to answer a question what you do for it.
Make A section in your notes and keep posting and refining notes all day about what topics and questions about you career growth you'll bring up in your next 1:1 Once you sit down for the meeting let him know you have X number of things to discuss
Take some self-development course? Like Dale Carnegie or something. It's useful to get a better perspective on human interactions.
I dont think there is anything wrong. Microsoft CTO is proudly introverted
Doing those things shouldn’t come at the cost of your own authenticity. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. But that means you need to find other methods of advocating for yourself. Maybe that means adjusting your meeting to talk about what you accomplished this week. Like a tiny scrum meeting, where you are the project. What you did, what you’re doing, what are your roadblocks. If you have a buddy or mentor program, take advantage of it. Be honest: you have a hard time talking about yourself and your accomplishments, so what can you do to become comfortable with that.
Change it or leave it.
What if I don't want to change? It hurts my self image when I do that stuff.
You can stagnate. That's fine too.