Colleague with strong opinions

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MikeSchot
Aug 13, 2021 18 Comments

I have a strong SDE in my team. He is really good at delivering stuff. He displays strong ownership too. But he is bit head strong and strong opinionated.

His choice of words and tone trips me off. I feel hostile when he points out any gaps or offers feedback to me and others.

I don’t know if he is doing that intentionally or it’s just that he way he is conditioned.

I have a good relation with this guy and I think he respects me. But it really bothers me when he uses string words and strong tone.

I raise my tone too when he uses his strong opinionated tone. It makes me feel bad later.

I have no issue with disagreement or even accepting that I am wrong when the other person is soft spoken and polite. My debates with every other engineers have been smooth and I never had the issue that I am facing with this guy.

Any suggestions on how I can avoid loosing cool with this guy?

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