My manager suddenly treating me very badly and humiliating me in team meetings. Should I confront him?

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uglyAlien

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uglyAlien
Oct 31, 2019 411 Comments

The humiliation is to the point where my work is projected on the screen and others are asked to comment on whether or not it is ‘correct’ indirectly implying people to respond that it is not.

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  • Google
    The Old Nite

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    The Old Nite
    What did you do?
    Oct 31, 2019 15
    • Rakuten / Ops
      tooQ10

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      Rakuten USA
      BIO
      Obligatory: YoE 20, TC 41k. Such is life for us non-SWE office monkeys!
       tooQ10
      I work at a bullying-oriented company and have noticed that bullying tends to be same-gender. Male bosses only bully male subordinates; female bosses only bully other women.

      I'm lucky to have a boss of the opposite sex.
      Oct 31, 2019
    • PayPal / Eng
      maybeiam

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      mphasis
       maybeiam
      I work with bunch of code junkies, who can code superbly but can't design, it sucks
      Oct 31, 2019
  • Document everything. Keep a diary of what he said, when, and who else was there.

    Don't tell anyone. Go talk to a lawyer. Do not tell anyone at work you talked to a lawyer.
    Oct 31, 2019 20
    • Cerner / Eng
      FrT6i24

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       FrT6i24
      @American Airlines. Yes, HR are there to cover the company's ass and that's why they must intervene in these situations. HR are trained to deal with these issues because they don't want any case to be escalated or to go to the court. From another point of view, filing a law suit for this small matter, then no company would hire the OP in the future because he/she skipped the HR stage. You need to be careful and wise not emotional and reckless.
      Oct 31, 2019
    • LinkedIn / Eng
      15haYv$7

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       15haYv$7
      Just curious how exactly does one document harassment if it happens in a meeting or conversation?
      Nov 2, 2019

  • Flagged by the community.

  • Oracle
    moracle

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    moracle
    No this is just good code review. Raise your game and get better
    Oct 31, 2019 15
    • Oracle
      moracle

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      moracle
      Why would a manager run out a quality cider?
      Oct 31, 2019
    • Reliable Software / Eng
      Sugoidesu

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       Sugoidesu
      Idk and idc. If you are so interested ask op 😂
      Oct 31, 2019
  • Amazon
    Strong☕️

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    Strong☕️
    HR will act but you must have specific instances that violate company policy and leave the company open to a lawsuit. If you just go in complaining, they’ll not do much. Just google hostile work environment, if there are patterns of behavior and others are also being targeted, band together. My bully, crazy ass L7 at Amazon was termed within 8 weeks of my going to HR. They gave her time to find a job so she could “resign”. Haha. Going to HR absolutely works but know the law. If they don’t act get a letter from an employment lawyer. They do this all the time. This garbage is rampant, don’t just quit with your tail between your legs. Grow a spine, it feels amazing to finally have some peace and power back. Then you can quit.
    Oct 31, 2019 7
    • New
      BAiM58

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      HR is not on your side.
      Lawyer up is better.
      Nov 1, 2019
    • New
      MYfP25

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      NEVER go to HR. Consult a Lawyer if you want to fight it, otherwise, leave. HR is the devil.
      Nov 1, 2019