I'm 35 years old and my TC is only $145K. l learned to program when I was a kid and I had big dreams. I wanted to grow up and start my own tech business. When I entered corporate world I realized I wasn't as good at programming than I had thought. But I still had a hope that I could be successful doing a startup. I eventually started a B2B SaaS with my friend. We had 3 small clients using our product but failed to reach further traction. In other words it failed. Now I'm a shitty low paid dev. Don't have motivation/self-control to leetcode or learn new tech. I spend all my free time on Reddit, blind and hacker news. My fiancee doesn't understand why I'm so depressed and not happy with how much I'm making. My physiatrist prescribed me some anti-depressants and it helps, but I still feel really unmotivated. My past failures make me feel like any effort will be fruitless.
You can do better than your current situation. If you believe that in your core then it will happen
What location OP? $145k is pretty good TC for cities in Texas!
Orange County, CA
thatâs the real reason youâre depressed
I think you should be on blind less. Apps like blind gives you an incorrect view of the world because there are a lot of flexers posting about high TC and their successes. It's similar to how people who are on Facebook all the time are more likely to be dissatisfied with their life as they scroll through the highlights of other peoples' lives.
PREEEAACCCHHHH!!! I feel like SHIT each time I read comments on blind. I like the answers I get BUT the TC comparison and etc. eff that!! Stay away
At any given time, I assume the posted TC is at least 30% higher than what theyre actually getting paid. At least that makes myself feel better đ
Ketamine did wonders for my depression. Try and work with a therapist to get to the root of the problem. Look into meditation too. All three of these are worth a try
Find a hobby unrelated to coding that brings you happiness. For me it's biking
same, OC has best mtb trails.
You need some perspective. You're so incredibly fortunate but you're ego is too big to see it so you come here groveling expecting what? Sympathy. Take care of your obvious blockages, try exploring a new hobby and quit crying.
Wow. This guy is hurting and you think tough love will fix it? Have some empathy
Empathy is putting myself in his shoes. I did. You want me to give him sympathy. I dont feel bad for anyone because they are upset they are the world's best whatever. That's a massive ego I'm not going to stroke. He is making solid money, someone to love him, he knows what's stopping him but wont do it. And he comes to an anonymous internet board because anyone close to him is probably telling him the same thing as me.
$145k TC... Where? You took risks and they didn't pan out. That's ok. I have felt low when my risks didn't work. It's human. Get off Blind, HN, and Reddit for starters, and do a project or two you enjoy. Donate your skills to a non-profit or open source. But especially, get off Blind. If you're in a spiral, don't encourage it.
You need a drink...
145 is less??? And you should be proud that you attempted something not everyone does!!
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