Deteriorating sex life

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To folks in relationship, what do you do when this happens? When you don’t find your partner sexually attractive? Sex appeal isn’t just looks, I think my partner is gorgeous but they’re too nice, timid, and not adventurous and that messes with sex appeal. May be I have issues…

Edit: straight male, but using gender-agnostic language because I’d welcome thoughts from types of couples

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    Malt4life

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    Malt4life
    Wait for a 20 year old to say ‘please talk to your partner’. And a boomer to say ‘talk to a therapist’. That is generally the answer in blind.
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  • You have preferences.
    Physical attraction: check.
    Spiritual attraction: lukewarm.

    If you are in a relationship with them, what drew you to them initially? Pure physical attraction?
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    • That’s your problem….. turn to the dark side 😂#MAGA
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    • Sounds like a pretty solid foundation. It’s hard to know the nuances but this is going to require communication.

      You can talk about willingness to try new things but there is not likely going to be any big changes in their overall personality (timid, conservative).

      You also have to have perspective that you may be with someone adventurous and outgoing that is also rude etc. that is also an unattractive quality.

      As long as you are open/honest and address things concerning you, you can come to a decision a lot faster. That said, physically attractive, kind and matching a lot of your core values is a rare commodity.
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    hNyg33

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    hNyg33
    This hits home. In a many year relationship (not married but cohabitating) that we’ve completely lost all romance and sexual chemistry. I’m very lost on what to do. I feel unhappy but can’t bring myself to end it.
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      hNyg33

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      hNyg33
      I feel like we just let things deteriorate so far that now I’m in this depressive state and unable to shake it. Those are all good pieces of advice, but somewhere along the line it just all broke down, and I don’t know if I can or want to save it, despite a paralyzing fear of breaking her heart and losing her. She’s still 100% committed but I’m not sure I can do it anymore.
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    • I'm so sorry 😔
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    god_no
    So you guys are getting sex? 😂
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    sqYf77k
    Find a way to introduce an element of danger, violence, or subversion
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