Actually i had kid after 6 years of marriage, kid brought new found happiness. Its joy to play with her. At the same time its a lot of work.. so its good and bad..
Worth it if you really want to have them. Not sure if you are a guy or a girl .. first few years are really tough physically , emotionally as well financially. It’s specially tough on women . House will be a mess for first few years, feeding them is a challenge , they get bored very easily so you have to entertain them
Having a kid is the best decision I have ever made in my life and my baby makes me happier than anything ever did in my life. However, i do not think you should have kids if you have anxiety/depression problem until you resolve it. I think it is bad for you, your baby and your family. Kid should never be a solution to resolve your issues.
I want kids but it’s hard for me when it seems like a good chunk of parents are more depressed after having them… if they don’t bring me purpose and happiness it seems like it’s not worth the work tbh
This isn't your social media feed. We have no incentive to misconstrue reality with only the positive. Parenting is a huge culture shock and you may never feel liberated again until an empty nest. But it's a newfound kind of purposeful joy that can't be understood until experienced.
Parenting is natural responsibility not actually a huge cultural shock. People make it more harder than it really is. You will get to experience a wide range of emotions with kids over the time
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1. I was depressed before kids, now more depressed
2. I was happy before kids, now more much more happier ?
You are missing some obvious edge cases here. Would say LC before you think of babies
I want kids but it’s hard for me when it seems like a good chunk of parents are more depressed after having them… if they don’t bring me purpose and happiness it seems like it’s not worth the work tbh
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