Do men need to ask consent for courtship?

Feb 12, 2018 50 Comments

We are the generation that uses tinder, yet we get upset when we get an unwarranted touch on our arm at a bar. Should men be required to ask for consent when continuing to flirt with or even talk to a woman?

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  • Sirius XM lgiN71
    What happened to people just telling each other they weren’t interested?
    Feb 12, 2018 19
    • Expeditors tsIY14
      Being asked if I and all the other Asians on my team are the same ethnicity is personal. I know I can’t call it outright racist, so it’s a personal problem. Which is why he is insufferable on a personal level.
      Feb 12, 2018
    • Microsoft
      yMcg47

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      yMcg47more
      Based on what some of you said, i have been harassed by sales people often. Oh and don’t even get me started on telemarketers.

      There should be a #metoo movement against sales people.
      Feb 16, 2018
  • Expedia
    MeTooToo

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    Women aren’t complaining about a touch on the arm. They are complaining about guys blatantly hitting on them in the workplace. The workplace is not the place to treat as a dating pool. It’s a place for business. Is that so hard to understand? Don’t treat women any differently than men at work.
    Feb 12, 2018 9
    • Salesforce / Eng nJlL46
      OP
      @1username That’s some really vague, idealistic, and not very actionable advice there. That would be nice. If women are constantly scared of being harassed by men, then of course men are going to be constantly scared of being accused.
      Feb 13, 2018
    • Not advice. Just 2 questions and 1 premise worth considering.

      Theres genuine fear on both sides. And while actionable advice is valuable, I think getting better at dialogue is where we need start.
      Feb 13, 2018
  • Google YTBs33
    Awkward but arrogant nerds with money happened, that’s what 😅
    Feb 12, 2018 3
    • Spotify eCzU42
      You don't have to stereotype all nerds like that.
      Feb 12, 2018
    • Airbnb / Design Unicorn 🦄
      🤣
      Feb 12, 2018
  • Twitch 73€|^{
    The whole movement has just made me hyper aware of how/when I interact with women at work to the point I actively ignore and go out of my way to avoid interacting with women at all. Life is just easier that way and I don’t have to worry about it.
    Feb 12, 2018 7
    • Google YTBs33
      I won’t stop interacting with women at work, sometimes in flirty ways, because I have a decent nose for knowing where the line is, which changes on a person by person basis. You can do what you do but it sounds to me like you’re just changing poor social skills to antisocial skills.
      Feb 14, 2018
    • Twitch 73€|^{
      Unsure why you assume I have poor social skills. I’m very well liked and have never had a complaint. It’s more so being proactive as a result of feeling like many of the accusations made are based on nothing more than a notion based on many assumptions. The damage caused by a filing a complaint is enough, even when completely false and proven as much, to be concerned.
      Feb 15, 2018
  • Microsoft A!
    Only if he is ugly.
    Feb 12, 2018 1
    • Salesforce / Eng nJlL46
      OP
      Exactly
      Feb 12, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng MarioBros4
    I'm pretty sure the result of this metoo movement is going to be a notarized document for any type of consent
    Feb 12, 2018 1
    • Microsoft / Eng allH1Bout
      You should have to get consent before speaking to a women.
      Feb 13, 2018
  • New / Eng T-800
    Isn't that what asking for a woman's phone number is? A man asking for a woman's consent to contact her for a romantic/sexual/intimate pursuit.
    Feb 12, 2018 0
  • Capital One paynful
    There is a woeful lack of parenting and training when it comes to this issue. Which sitcom or movie do you see where the man asks for explicit permission to touch or kiss? Unfortunately TV and movies are where we teach our kids how to relate to each other because we are confused ourselves.
    Feb 12, 2018 0
  • Google 0aDu68
    Then shouldn't it also be the other way around too?
    Feb 13, 2018 0
  • Revinate / Data JPQ
    Only in California.
    Feb 12, 2018 0

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