Fellow Indians never take me seriously?

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Sep 9, 2021 35 Comments

I'm not saying they should respect me. I'm a fucking nobody. I understand that. But just some basic decency?

I had dinner with my colleagues last week. My manager's manager sat next to me. This guy, manages about 7 managers, has 35 years of experience. But, we had a great conversation about work, movies and a bunch of other topics. He never made me feel small. Not only this, I have always had good interactions with Americans.

Contrary to this, when I'm with my Indian colleagues, I feel ridiculed and it feels like whatever I say is never taken seriously. I have a being bullied past in India during school/college and it just brings those memories back. Not just with that group, I have had this experience with different groups of people, the only common things is they were all Indians.

I never used to care what people say to me/ treat me but I'm in late 20s now and it's just getting to me after all these shitty experiences over the years.

Am I being overtly sensitive? Or is this an experience shared by anyone else here?

#depression #mentalhealth

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  • Google
    spin-cycle

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    spin-cycle
    Desi are suckers to 'aukaad'.
    If you have higher aukaad, they'll suck up to you. If you are perceived as same or below aukaad, they'll try to put you down. So that they can feel good about themselves.
    Sep 9, 2021 5
    • Rizzle
      aao aao

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      @donglinos no one will openly talk about caste but there are significant % of people there. Out of that mostly will be older guys
      Sep 9, 2021
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      CandyShop

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      Google you need better friends
      Sep 9, 2021
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    1Name4Evaa

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    9th Indians berating Indians post I am tracking in 2 days. Is this a new trend?
    Sep 9, 2021 2
  • Every Indian, every interaction? Is the answer is yes, then I would say your trauma from being bullied in India is coloring all your interactions with Indians.

    It's like you're expecting them to treat you like crap and so you are on the lookout for every perceived slight. And as we know, when you go looking for something you will find it.

    I think therapy would be beneficial to you.
    Sep 9, 2021 2
    • Rizzle
      aao aao

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      aao aao
      Answer op is looking for
      Sep 9, 2021
    • Definitely agree that unpacking the trauma from being bullied would be helpful. You’ll get through it OP. A lot of us have been there.
      Sep 11, 2021
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    There is cultural differences between the way Asians and westerners behave in social settings. Asians are generally hierarchical even in social settings, westerners are more casual. I think that is what you experienced at dinner. On the other hand, it sound like you have hard time trusting fellow Indians, perhaps they represent your past life where you were bullied. It is good to talk to a therapist. (Again, Asians look down on those seeking a therapist so don’t open up about it to fellow Indians until you work things out for yourself).
    Sep 9, 2021 0
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    cookues

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    Indians are commonly threatened by other Indians. It’s a real shame because a lot of other cultures aren’t like this. Real shame
    Sep 9, 2021 0