Feeling Lost !
I am at a point in my life where nothing makes sense to me. I used to be a very motivated employee and very ambitious. Initially, I thought it is just burn out, I started looking for outside opportunities. I got rejected by Google, even though I cleared Airbnb, Uber and Snapchat phone screen, I just said no to onsites. The fact that I could clear any of them was a surprise to me because I am not putting in the hours I want to. Most apps that determine depression levels rate me as severly depressed. I also have a lot of anxiety and would procrastinate until there is no choice. Even on personal front, I feel empty and void of having no love life or no one to share my life with ( I have tried dating, meeting people in meetups and also enrolling and attending classes) I am not even doing great at my work. I seriously want to not watch my life go a downward spiral. I have tried therapy and my therapist wasn’t of much help. TL;DR: What advice would you give to someone who feels they have lost all enthusiasm to even try fixing things in life? Is it just age / lonliness ?
Set small goals for yourself and celebrate (even in a small way) when you meet them. It could be as simple As waking up early and going for a short run. What did you enjoy doing earlier in life? Get back into that hobby. If it’s a sport - great. Change your therapist. You need to get out of the downward spiral so kick against it, and don’t let it win. You’re better than that. Fight it. Spend time with people who you feel positive talking to. Good luck 👍👍
But seriously, start small. Heck just 5000 - 10, 000 steps walk every day. Achieve the goal consistently, and move up to an additional goal.
Sorry, forgot to add - I do run often, I participate in a lot of 5K and 10Ks. I used to be quite pumped about them but not anymore
F 30. I think it is a recurring pattern for me. But off lately it has been almost 1 year since I have been struggling with this
To add to what seattle4u & others have said, 1. It could also be the weather btw. I’d highly recommend taking vitamin D3 and keeping the exercise + good food routine up 2. Don’t let your age get in the way of your happiness. My gf is 33 & I’m younger and we’ve been together a few months with marriage on the horizon in a year or so 3. Do you think a change in city or job will help? Sometimes we need a change outside of our comfort zone to kick our dopamine centres going 4. Are you involved in meetups or cultural/social events? Even if you’re not religious, there’s tonnes of religious events that have a mix crowd of secular + religious folk 5. Do you have time to volunteer or for a pet? Adopting a puppy can prove to be greatly beneficial. Pet companionship is known to help our serotonin centres
I want you to know that every single person in here has/is/will be fucked up for a while in life. We all go through it mate and we all get out. So will you. We as humans need a support system. For me, its another human being, so talk to someone. Not asking you to open up completely to your long lost friend. Have a casual chat with a friend or talk to a colleague or call up your family. Choose the next person you come across to be a little vulnerable. We are all so busy masking ourselves with perfect images, we don’t let others see the real you. The real you is beautiful and I bet people will realize that if you give them a chance to. Pick up the phone or get out to meet someone in person. Listen. Help someone help you. Good luck. And oh, you are awesome! 🥳
Thanks so much for this! I feel happy that I could share it even if it is an anonymous platform and get this support 😊 I believe it will take me sometime to open up as I have always been seen as the person who has their shit together. I guess I need to cry real hard for once !
You bet. Alone is harder. Together is better. 🙂
Try online gaming
I'm not a professional but: - Enjoy the little things in life - walking, running, going out for coffee, small trips - Find a goal that you work towards or an activity/hobby (preferably social or outdoors) - Shake things up a bit - change the job, city, place you live in, or just travel somewhere - As someone pointed out, consider getting a dog I get your point - there is a loneliness epidemic and many people suffer from it. The older you get, the worse it becomes.
I can relate to this . I started having this feeling after I opted for a remote job. Going on a vacation helped, but only for a short period. Not sure if it’s part of getting old . I was never this way before
Now that you revealed you're a woman at least you won't feel lonely anymore :)
How about seeing a psychiatrist?