Sorry about this brain dump, I just feel like I need to let this out... I make standard amount of fang tech salary (not a lot per blind standard) but I feel bad about how much I am making and how greedy I became when switching jobs / negotiating offers. Last year my son’s daycare teacher got fired from an innocent incident. She held herself accountable and reported the incident herself. yet she got terminated. She’s a single mom raising two kids and came from a different country (she’s an immigrant, and a mom like me). I donated $500 dollars and helped her do the job posting to find a new nanny job. She’s making $25 an hour as a nanny with no benefits. That’s about $60k a year. And as the kids grow up, she will need to look for a new job again. This really makes me sad. Am I really 5 times better than she is? Do I work 5 times harder? Am I generating 5 times more value to the society? Do I deserve the salary I am making? Despite this, when I am trying to switching jobs recently, my first reaction to a $350k offer was “lowball”. taking a pause looking at my life, I think I have a problem. I don’t appreciate enough the fact that I got the life I am living, and how lucky I am compared to other people in the world, even compared to many people who were still in my home country. I maintain a very simple and non materialistic life style - buy clothes from h&m and Uniqlo, wear free t shirt often times, cook at home during weekends, never bought business class flights, and go to Walmart for household stuff. I feel contained with my lifestyle and don’t think more money will solve any of my problems, and yet I still want to make more money(maybe as proof of how much company values me?), all while feeling like I don’t deserve the money I am making at all. 🤷🏿♀️ Anybody ever felt this way at all..?
You didnt get ahead in the race to look back. Win it, then retire and do non-profit/volunteer
You are fine to think so. Just make sure you eventually are grateful for what you got and compassionate for others. And remember life will get EVERYONE in it's own unique way and money is just a small part of it
No one deserves these things. It's capitalism at play. Let it motivate you to give back to the world. Be kind, loving, compassionate. Volunteer. Teach others these things through example. And two very important things: thank everyone and hate less.
Thank you. It is people of your kind pushing the society a better place to live.
I agree with this comment. OP, never lose your heart! That's the hardest thing to develop. You are in a blessed position to actually make a difference in a person's life and you recognize that.
You have a good heart OP. I think you should NOT feel bad about your TC, if companies pay you that much to work for them, your work is valuable and well worth more than for the price they pay. I understand your frustration and IMO, part of it comes from inequality of wealth distribution, part of it comes from inequality of education system, and there’s more to be factored in such as luck, opportunity and resources. It’s hard to fight the system, you can’t change inequality right away. But if you truly want to help out, don’t just offer money, offer the resources needed for this busy mom to acquire skillset, help her advance her career than just a nanny. This is also not an easy task but it’s a much much more sustainable path.
When I was young, my Aunt and Uncle had an in house maid (common for middle class in low income countries) who was super hardworking and smart. So, when my cousins left the house, they pay her tuition to learn Windows and Office. Today she is manager at a large telecom... You can’t fight the system, but you can make a difference
There are people who make 10 or maybe 100 times more than you and they don't work any harder than you. Some of them don't even work.
If you really feel bad go and help the needy to offset. Very simple
I agree with you that I am being a hypocrite. Saying that I feel bad, but don’t have the courage to quit.
Don't quit. If you quit the money will be in someone else pocket. Take the money and give what you don't use to the poors and help them
If Facebook didn’t think your labor was worth 300k, they wouldn’t pay you that. How much effort you put in is irrelevant
TC? YoE?
$300k. I thought you would have passed in your math class but maybe not 😁
Owned!