What do you girls wish the guys knew about you or other SWE girls? Any habit/behavior/mindset changes you wish guys would make?
Stop asking if I can magically refer 'other women'. There were exactly 2 in my engineering classes back in the day. And no, 90 hour work weeks before a release date is not a life goal.
Sorry, we'll keep asking for referrals. At any decent company, you are well rewarded for this.
If the request was for qualified referrals that would be great. When I give 3 referrals and get back 'don't you know any women?' 100% of the time, it's ridiculous.
Asking to bring cookies during meetings. Nope not all the females like baking; even if I do... I don't want to bring that to a work meeting.
Are you kidding ? That’s just blatant misogyny 🤦🏻♀️
Might as well tell you to go to kitchen and make them a sandwich.
Don't ask them if the equipment is too heavy for them to carry. Especially the women in the IT space changing desktops, laptops, etc.
Equality.
Please stop saying “bro” or calling me “one of the guys” as if that’s a good thing.
That we get periods and have wires in our underwear.
We eat lunch too and it’s ok to include us for lunch, no need to be weird 🙄
Calling bs
Do not step on my toes and take my credit away. I spent 3 fucking months working on this feature. Suddenly, you show up at the last moment, work on a minor function and hog the limelight. Thank you for being a massive dick!
That we are women, not girls.
Not strictly work related, but: if your female colleague is taking off/ WFH 1-2 days per month, don't necessarily ask why. While you may mean well, it can be super embarrassing to reveal the real (health-related) reason, and it's discomforting to lie always, esp when it's a RECURRING occurrence and the (real) reason won't change.
Yes, i feel you. I felt embarrassed when a classmate told me she missed classes 2 days per month because of her menstrual cycle. I felt bad for asking and since then, i don't ask any lady anything again.
Thank you for the understanding & consideration. Much appreciated.