Female engineers, what do you wish your male counterparts knew?

Nov 17, 2019 64 Comments

What do you girls wish the guys knew about you or other SWE girls? Any habit/behavior/mindset changes you wish guys would make?

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  • SAP k-sera
    Not strictly work related, but: if your female colleague is taking off/ WFH 1-2 days per month, don't necessarily ask why. While you may mean well, it can be super embarrassing to reveal the real (health-related) reason, and it's discomforting to lie always, esp when it's a RECURRING occurrence and the (real) reason won't change.
    Nov 17, 2019 30
    • Amazon mopfloor
      People sometimes need tampons?Sounds like you need one too. I’ve plenty to share.
      Nov 18, 2019
    • New / Design cockball
      If you’re embarrassed about a natural human tendency, then you have an issue. Try not to be so backward/indian
      Nov 25, 2019
    • SAP k-sera
      Woah, really? Then, instead of manspailing, why don't you educate us on what you've done to alleviate this 'issue'?
      Nov 26, 2019
    • New / Design cockball
      Quite simply, just embrace it. We’re all human beings
      Nov 26, 2019
    • SAP k-sera
      Well meaning, but too simplistic & non-nuanced a statement. You need to spend a little more time in the problem space first before jumping into the solution space.
      Nov 26, 2019
  • Facebook pppppo
    Please stop saying “bro” or calling me “one of the guys” as if that’s a good thing.
    Nov 17, 2019 14
    • New XoAY48
      Thank you Sensui
      Nov 18, 2019
    • Amazon Sensui
      OP
      NP! I'm looking to leave myself. I've got interviews lined up. Hope it works out...also Amazon is very female friendly. Don't worry.
      Nov 18, 2019
    • New XoAY48
      I am sorry. I’m in women’s thread. I am not a woman though. Can I DM you? You may give me referral in future :p. Want to keep you pinned with DM.
      Nov 18, 2019
    • Amazon Sensui
      OP
      Of course!
      Nov 18, 2019
    • Apple / Eng Down4HW
      Interesting. I noticed that some women say ‘guys’ when referring to a mixed gender group. I have always said ‘folks’, ‘team’, ‘peeps’ naturally when referring to a mixed group.
      Nov 18, 2019
  • VMware / Project
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    PpxT00more
    Stop asking if I can magically refer 'other women'. There were exactly 2 in my engineering classes back in the day. And no, 90 hour work weeks before a release date is not a life goal.
    Nov 17, 2019 2
    • Google / Ops Huhf13
      Sorry, we'll keep asking for referrals. At any decent company, you are well rewarded for this.
      Nov 17, 2019
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      PpxT00more
      If the request was for qualified referrals that would be great. When I give 3 referrals and get back 'don't you know any women?' 100% of the time, it's ridiculous.
      Nov 17, 2019
  • Cadence Mariposa
    Asking to bring cookies during meetings. Nope not all the females like baking; even if I do... I don't want to bring that to a work meeting.
    Nov 17, 2019 5
    • BlackRock fuckFANG
      Are you kidding ? That’s just blatant misogyny 🤦🏻‍♀️
      Nov 17, 2019
    • New /\
      Might as well tell you to go to kitchen and make them a sandwich.
      Nov 17, 2019
    • Cadence Mariposa
      True story :/ happened multiple times with me; the folks I work with are older so I am assuming its just that
      Nov 17, 2019
    • New /\
      There should be no excuses for that in the workplace.
      Nov 17, 2019
    • Microsoft / Manufacturing __Ranveer
      Next time jut try saying ‘Ok Boomer’ /s
      Nov 19, 2019
  • Microsoft lc_ing
    We eat lunch too and it’s ok to include us for lunch, no need to be weird 🙄
    Nov 18, 2019 1
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  • IEEE AC/VC
    Don't ask them if the equipment is too heavy for them to carry. Especially the women in the IT space changing desktops, laptops, etc.
    Nov 17, 2019 1
  • Amazon mopfloor
    That we get periods and have wires in our underwear.
    Nov 17, 2019 3
    • Apple / Eng Down4HW
      I assume bra only correct?
      Nov 18, 2019
    • Amazon mopfloor
      Chastity belts too.
      Nov 18, 2019
    • Apple / Eng Down4HW
      Interesting 🤔
      Nov 18, 2019

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