Goodbye Bay Area, goodbye America

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dado90

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dado90
Mar 10, 2020 932 Comments

After 5 years, my Bay Area stint came to an end. Made crazy amount of money, bought a big home in Vancouver, moving there as I got Canadian PR. Some points before I leave as I see lot of people struggle with same questions again and again. This applies everywhere in the world.

I have learned that there are 4 most important things in life to achieve happiness and I learnt it first hand.
For a truly middle class life with happiness, each of these max out at 25%
1) Family and friends - you need to have at least 5/10 family members, at least 4 to 5 best friends and 4 to 5 local friends whom you meet on weekly basis. 1 life partner who understands you well.
2) Money - You need to make at least 3-4 times of the minimum wage to be happy and leave middle class. After that, money doesn't matter much.
3) Health - you need to have very strong mental health along with physical health with no diseases. you need to be fit enough to lift 40% of your weight.
4) Career/goals/dreams - You need to spend at least 5 to 8 hours on a day doing things that you love. Again, if you achieve something, this score comes down, you need to find new goal.

So all you TC freaks, no matter even you are billionaire, you just achieve 25% of true happiness, so all these high TC means nothing after a certain threshold. stop comparing with others and feeling bad.

Next time, you want to envy someone, see if they achieve at least 70% of the above list. If you find someone in your life who has achieved 75% (total), be their friend. they are true genius.

There is no f**king point earning 1 million but living single lazily with no friends and watching same tv show doing documentation.

Again this is no way to demean someone, but if you are lacking something in life, its because you are missing on 1 or more points above. Try to achieve 100% in each of these and every day is a bliss. This is the reason why money doesn't buy happiness cos its only worth 25%.

Good news - money whatever you lost can be earned, same with goals, you can have new goals.

Bad news - if you lose health and Family/friends, hard to get it back. So concentrate more on health/family.

Some extra tips -
1) Yes, Bay Area is extremely bad for dating for an average person, so don kick yourself. Travel to different places and date people from other states, more work but definitely worth it.
2) If you are struggling with Visa like me, make good amount of money in Bay Area and then move to Canada and get citizenship ( 3 years), then you can come back to US.

Quick edit - you don't have to come back, I am not coming back. Also, you can move to Texas or other place not Canada
3) Don live in Bay Area with your family, you miss what's living in good community like. Its always better to have beautiful big house with nice people around you even if its cheap.

Overall, I enjoyed every bit of Bay Area while I am here. Final words, your goal shouldn't be about making money but living a very quality life no matter where you are. Always aim for that!

good luck :)))))

Another edit - lot of people asking about money, guys, another reason why I am moving to Vancouver is that even my would-be spouse from India can work :)

TC - 220k, 7 YOE, age 30

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  • Amazon
    Klta23

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    Klta23
    We don't need you in Canada. Need to build a wall. Someone pretending to be better than everyone else.
    Mar 10, 2020 11
    • Amazon
      bbratrace

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      bbratrace
      Klta23. I hear you from your standpoint assuming you are a citizen born and raised in Canada. However, you can't have the cake and eat it too. Benefitting from immigrants taxes and labor and making comments like you yourself own the country. I neither agree nor disagree with immigration. But I think people like you should take it to your government instead of making good-for-nothing comments here on blind.
      Mar 12, 2020
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      k.designer
      lmao haters gonna hate. love OPs post !!
      Mar 28, 2020
  • Apple
    tidders

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    tidders
    Not sure what you mean by 5/10 family members. All I have left are my mom and dad, so do I immediately fail here?
    Mar 10, 2020 13
  • IBM
    rastamasta

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    rastamasta
    Almost thought I was reading LinkedIn for a second
    Mar 10, 2020 3
  • Cisco
    okkkkkkkk

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    okkkkkkkk
    Life philosophies from someone who started off with 'Made crazy amount of money, bought a big home'. Haha!
    No thanks!!!
    Mar 10, 2020 4
    • BYTON
      Kbyte

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      Kbyte
      I am with you on this, we share the same philosophy. I am making close to you, including the savings, and I am in the 70+% range according to your scale, and I feel happy due to same reasons.
      Mar 10, 2020
    • Cisco
      okkkkkkkk

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      okkkkkkkk
      I don't care how much it is - 1M/100k/10M. When you are being philosophical but taking money into consideration for making those theories, it's just not for me and is plainly double-faced.
      Mar 11, 2020
  • Cisco
    virat_k

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    virat_k
    Mathuradas from border spotted ;)
    Mar 10, 2020 2