Has working in the tech industry and chasing tc affected your marriages/relationships?

Nov 6, 2021 15 Comments

I made a post about thinking of asking for an open marriage with my husband busy chasing career success and tc even though we are very well off due to inheritance. Wondering if it’s common in the tech scene.

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  • IBM
    rLeI77

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    rLeI77
    One of my friends who was in a open relationship (not marriage) said that despite the wokeness around it, and all the people saying it’s “successful” for them, said it boils down to two things (this is for straight couples btw)

    1. Are you both on same level of attractiveness, i.e will women approach you if you are a straight man, because the opposite will always be true. If so, then feelings of jealousy will be kept to a minimum since both you and your partner will have a steady stream of attention from the opposite sex

    2. As a male, are you okay with someone ploughing your girl / are you not interested in sex to begin with and only want the emotional aspect of it.

    My friend is assxual. He isn’t interested in sex in the slightest. He’s always been this way. He has no issue with his partner seeking that elsewhere because he trusts his partner, and second he doesn’t care about the sexual component.

    His open relationship didn’t work but that was entirely due to other reasons
    Nov 6, 2021 4
  • HSBC / Eng
    fkhsbc

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    fkhsbc
    The only relationship I have is with TC, and chasing it isn't ruining the relationship, it's strengthening instead 😂
    Nov 6, 2021 0
  • Oracle
    down_bad

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    down_bad
    tc or gtfo
    Nov 6, 2021 0
  • New / Eng
    cfSb51

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    cfSb51
    Not married yet but current TC is 146k, I’d like to reach >= 1 million TC someday, but that’s just a secondary goal. A healthy, stable, relationship is goal #1. I’ll still chase TC but not at the cost of my relationship (granted we’re communicating effectively to bring up such topics). I don’t think it’s the TC chasing but about what the person’s primary goal is. You can be in a heathy, loving relationship while chasing TC. They’ve never been mutually exclusive imo. Good luck OP.
    Nov 6, 2021 0
  • Yeah, don't do that. You're at GD, don't risk any future clearance.
    Even bringing that up is disrespectful. Suggest couples therapy instead - don't seek from outside
    Nov 6, 2021 2