I worked like a horse for 15 years 50-60 hours a week. I told myself that once I have financial stability, I will have fun. Well, financial stability turns out to be just a pipe dream. Most working class people will never have it due to ever increasing number of "needs". But that's not the subject of this post. It is loosing the ability to have fun. At this point of time, I don't even know what I can do for fun. Recently, I have had a few low intensity weeks at work and ample free time but I have no idea how to have fun. 15 years ago I had so little money but I was always active. Friends, parties, workouts etc. What do people do nowadays to have fun? Does anyone feel the same way? Thoughts? UPDATE: may be the real question is "do people who work hard for years lose their ability to have fun and enjoy life?" That makes evolutionary sense. Use it or loose it kind of deal. Update: Age: 40 Software Engineer Married with 2 kids No known health condition
Sports, travel, sex
Tell me about it.
For me, planning a trip every ~6 months to somewhere far in the world. You still need the right partner though.
+1 on "you need the right partner"
Problem is not that you forgot to have fun. Problem is that as you get older, definition of fun becomes more specific to people. Find people with similar interests and dive deep into hobbies. I'd you are into friendships increase your network, if you are into workout, find a group workout class and make connections.
I like the way you put "definition of fun becomes more specific". Very true!
This makes sense. But honestly, the only people I know who have specific definitions of fun and find it hard to talk about anything but work are techies. An avg American can hold great conversations with anyone even when they are 75
Ask those same friends what they do for fun now..
Travel somewhere solo is definitely recommended it helps a lot to find areas buried in your mind which you consider to be fun and interests that you are not even aware of them yourself but just remember that when you travel let loose and do things as they come to you. You will find yourself again and you'll realize that the serious life doesn't go so far.
Enjoy the journey. The destination is death.
Sad but so incredibly true
Drugs. Some (not all) are bad/addictive/harmful, so do your homework first.
Isnât it sort of a sad state of affairs when you need to use drugs to have fun?
The vast majority of people that are not having sex in the world cope by using legalized drugs. Zoloft, prozac, paxil, Lexapro, modafinil, Adderall, Ritalin, Wellbutrin, risperidone, etc
Another thing u can do is get off social media (including blind) đ. ReInvoke your creativity. I think the definition of fun in general has evolved in past 10 yrs. So the case may not be unique to you; others might not be realizing/accepting the same fact for themselves
Just get ready for these âblow and hookersâ advices...
Hah hah. Those sound like escaping from reality rather than having fun.
Itâs âhookers and blowâ