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I feel really depressed. Not depressed, like bummed out for a minute... depressed, like depressed. I feel exhausted at work and can’t catch a break. Too many things weighing on me. No one really understanding all that I do. Too many deadlines. I found out what someone makes on accident and I have a very similar role to them (different departments) and have been here years longer. 10K is probably not much to most of you, but where I am at, it’s huge. I am a top performer, but slowly dying inside. My manager is very by the book and fair with pay, so negotiating isn’t really an option. It makes me feel even more burned out. I can barely get out of bed lately. Help me be ok. Edit: I am so humbled by so many people that took time to help a total stranger. Mind-blowing. I have a therapist appointment tomorrow. First time in 10 years, so obviously it was time. Your advice and kind regards won’t go un-actioned. Bless you all and have a happy holiday. update: Therapy is going well. I’m excited to get into more and go deeper. Been exercising nearly every day, as many suggested. It’s bringing up a lot for me. I cry in almost every workout. Never experienced this before, but I can’t say it’s a bad thing to be feeling more I guess. There are likely things I have suppressed for far too long. Some of you have asked and checked in on me. I truly appreciate it more than you know. The holidays were awesome and I had a much needed break and time with family. I need a vacation somewhere warm but don’t have money to. I’ve started to save for one hopefully later this year. Being back at work for a few days has been really hard actually. I thought I would feel amped to be back, but I’m not. Maybe that is the most of all, telling. It probably is time to let go of this job. It’s so hard when I have so much freedom and friends here, but it isn’t enough to save me anymore. Wish you all the best. 2020 is going to be amazing either way.
Take a vacation and travel for a few days....go visit family.... we all need to realign our priorities. Go visit places that you loved to go as a child.
This. Also, dont think about work when on vacation. Turn off work notifications. You may need multiple vacations to fully recover. When I felt burnt out, it took me about two years to become excited about work again. Keep balance between physical and mental health. Too much use of either is not good
Don’t just turn off notifications. Sign out of all work related apps (email, chat, etc.)
Find out what makes you excited to make and seek a job in that line of work. Somewhere else is where you want to be. Find a supporting mate.
Lexapro helped me and finding a new job
1. See a doctor and get full hormone panel + vitamin tests done 2. See a psychiatrist 3. Work out
Working out can't be overstated. So many studies showing a direct correlation with exercise and happiness. I've been out of shape my whole life, but forcing myself to jog around the block relieves stress in ways that drink/other vices cannot. The best is to get out in nature and get a little sun.
I agree with this 100%. My daughter suffers from anxiety and depression. We have found that a good counselor and/or psychiatrist, regular physical activity, and good sleep really helps a lot.
You need a change. A new place where you can meet new people and learn new things. Start applying for new jobs, and meanwhile prepare for interviews. Check out what they're asking these days. Do you already have that skill? If no, learn it and reinterview. Find a new job and move on! It happens to me every 18 months as I get bored too soon. I hop jobs and that keeps me sane.
I’m sorry you feel this way. You’re not alone in these types of struggles. Are you East Coast? The winter weather can bring out some of these demons. Quality time with friends & family that you can vent to can help. Eating well & working out to up those dopamines. Hot yoga. Taking a vacation for at least 10 days to relax & enjoy. After you feel better, focus on finding a new job with a TC that will make you happier. Celebrate giving your notice.
The dark winter does that in Seattle, too
Yeah you need some good time off over the holidays and take a break
Get a dog. Not trying to minimize, and you should also get professional help though. My lil buddy helped me though
(1) Take a break - vacation (2) Get a dog or kid (if that's a preferred option). There's a lead time associated with the latter option (3) look for change of role/team/company (4) grow a hobby, side gig or area where you can grow into alongside with your job.
No kids please!!! They will be even more depressing!
No, absolutely no to kids. I have 3 and love them. But they are NOT an antidepressant pill. They will exhaust you, you will redefine your identity, you will give up who you are, you world will revolve around them whether you are ready or not. None of that is negative. I love it, would do it again. But it's hard. And you have to start from a good place. Starting from a bad place will do no good for you or them. Have kids, when you're ready. When you're ready to care for and give everything you have and are to build a new and amazing little person. Not to get yourself out of depression or distract you from your other problems.
Have u seen a mental health professional? This happens all of us. Or most. People feel down at times. Now I am not the one to say pick urself up and dust off the sadness. But there r definitely things u can do to increase ur well being. I am sure people below will have ideas and suggestions. If those seem to not work, then u need to see a qualified psychiatrist. If there's a chemical imbalance they can prescribe something to make u feel better. If not medication it might help to talk to a qualified therapist. These two r things u can do in addition to or in case other help-yourself kind of ideas don't work.
Agree