How do I become more girly?

Feb 3, 2019 54 Comments

Over time I have become more extroverted and more bold. I don’t hesitate to speak up. This scares away potential ppl who want to date me. How do I become more feminine?
Men like girly females right ?

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  • Bloomberg EricReis
    Are you kidding me? I’d kill for a girl like that. Be yourself. Don’t change
    Feb 3, 2019 8
    • American Express {...✌️}
      😂😂😂
      Feb 3, 2019
    • Google YfqG77
      Haters gonna hate but girls are female by definition, and being feminine is apropos. It will attract a larger base of suitors. OP will need to naturally become feminine though and not force it seemingly unnaturally. Focus on your mannerisms, wittiness and your body - booty and charms and see how many times you get asked out 😉 Don't listen to these politically correct folks, listen to the data and optimize. You're a smart analytical girl right?
      Feb 4, 2019
  • Apple bqdp
    Most people will tell you to just be yourself/other useless, feel-good “advice”.

    The truth is, most (but definitely not all) men do like more feminine women. I love that my wife prepares a lunch for me everyday, for example. It makes me feel super loved and cared for.

    However, you may also not want the kind of man that wants that kind of woman. It’s all about compatibility. If you’re not looking for a guy who fits more traditional gender roles, then it also makes no sense for you to try to fit traditional gender roles.

    But, if you *are* interested in that kind of guy, or just want to broaden your appeal to most guys, it definitely would help to be more girly. In which case, check out redpillwomen and redpillwives on reddit.
    Feb 3, 2019 11
    • Microsoft
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      “I don’t respect either of your opinions about controlling women’s personas and limiting them to traditional roles.”

      Did you get that idea from this comment?
      Feb 10, 2019
    • Microsoft
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      “This is just a quote to help inspire a connection to your own human dignity.”

      You’re quoting a prominent Islamic speaker to inspire basic human dignity towards women. What’s next? Are you going to quote Hitler’s eugenics speech to inspire respect for Jewish heritage?

      “And I have no way to know if you’re just trolling, but whether you are or not the end result is the same - it’s a oppressive, negative feeling.” “It’s a bad feeling to trigger someone to that place.”

      I have no control over how you feel. I literally don’t. You are the one who makes decisions and chooses to feel a certain way based on your own beliefs. You’re spreading SJW nonsense and the oppression you’re finding is your own reflection, your own bias. At most my goal was to show how close-minded you are since you think you know best for people and cultures you have absolutely no idea about. If your definition of oppressive behavior includes expression of opinions that differ from yours, then yes I’m oppressing you 110%.

      “There is different way to live that doesn’t cause so much stress and it does involve thinking of respect and dignity on another level. You can respect everyone’s right to be treated with dignity, to bring out the best in each other, without respecting someone’s specific opinion. It’s a choice.”

      I think we have a different understanding of human dignity and respect. Mine does not involve shoving diversity and gender identity liberation down world’s throat. I also respect other nations and people of traditions other than mine to decide what works best for them, be it men or women.

      You may also want to research what is happening in Sweden, the world’s leader in gender equality. Apparently, when Swedes have a choice they choose a profession that aligns with traditional gender roles, and are more traditional than they were before equality politics. They are seeing highest gender disparities in professional fields in all of Europe. It sounds like Sweden needs you to educate them out of their oppression.
      Feb 10, 2019
  • New novium
    Urgh, if there's one piece of advice, it's to never listen to MRA types, who are without a doubt the most fucked up people I've ever encountered, and whose low opinion of men is only surpassed by their hatred of women. (Though I'm not surprised to see them swarming on this post). There's a lot to unpack in your post, but the main thing is, if you force yourself to act in ways that aren't true to yourself, any relationship you have will be based on a lie and that will leave you unhappy... and it's a shitty thing to do to another person. Men aren't monolithic. There isn't any advice that applies to all of them. So the best thing you can do is sort yourself out. I'd recommend seeing a therapist, because your question here kind of implies you might have some things to work out.
    Feb 6, 2019 6
    • Google / Eng Mr Glass
      @bqdp's comment above is spot on. Crushed @novium's deranged rant beautifully. I'll repeat it here for the other SJW scums:

      If some guy is a greasy unemployed basement dweller that just stays home and watches anime and plays video games, and he decides he wants to start dressing better, showering, developing new hobbies, and getting a job, would you say he's forcing himself to act in ways that aren't true to himself? No? Then why would you say that to OP who wants to be more girly, you scum?
      Feb 8, 2019
    • BlackRock xis
      Unless the basement dweller was a woman :)
      Mar 29, 2019
  • Your amazing! Don’t change yourself for another person. The right one will come along 😊
    Feb 3, 2019 5
    • Lol I bet your single and the kind of guy that this applies to😂
      I’ve never had any trouble finding people I enjoy being with, and without compromising myself. It’s sound advice, but she really shouldn’t have asked for opinions on here. Blind is filled with people like you.
      Feb 4, 2019
    • Google YfqG77
      Mankind is filled with people like me. That's my point, Einstein 😉
      Feb 4, 2019
  • Microsoft
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    Let’s get to the bottom of this. Your real question isn’t how to be more feminine, but how to date successfully. And what does that mean? That means finding guys who you have a natural connection with, where there is chemistry and trust. So shouldn’t you instead be 1) figuring out the type of guys you like who like you back (synergy) 2) asking where that kind of guys hang out, and then 3) go meet them?
    Feb 3, 2019 0
  • Amazon lolwhat
    Troll
    Feb 3, 2019 0
  • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
    I feel like I’m not girly enough either. Trying to wear more make up and do my hair more but it’s such a freakin pain. It’s just not me. I spent like $1000 at Sephora and I’m not even motivated to use the shit I bought. Maybe that’s why I work in tech. At this point I’ve just given up and I’m going to be my self.
    Feb 18, 2019 4
    • Dropbox / Eng 100k🔗🐼
      Yeah I’m too outspoken. 😑
      Feb 18, 2019
    • Microsoft
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      Every quality can be seen as positive or negative. It all depends on your outlook.
      Feb 18, 2019
  • Bank of The West
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    ☝️ Best advice so far.

    My take would be a bit different, there are guys who like girls like OP to date and be in a relationship but few of them wouldn’t marry and would want a different type to marry. OP needs to be able to differentiate between the two and find the first type who would date and marry the same girl.
    Feb 3, 2019 0
  • A10 Networks / Eng
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    You just need to find a better guy.
    Feb 3, 2019 0
  • Google gosumoo
    I used to think like that until I gave up on dating and then met the man who would be my husband. He's arguably girlier than I am in that he is far more respectful and accommodating and kind. Being yourself is always the best, tho being open minded is the second best thing to prioritize. I find the more assertive/masculine type men may look for girlier girls, just find the guy who looks for the person within :)
    Feb 14, 2019 0

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