How do you deal with a career AND kids?
Posting this in the women in tech section not because I️ think this is a woman only responsibility but because I️ want to know how women deal with it.
I’m trying to rise in my career but I️ feel like I’m being held back by my kids and home life. I️ come home from work fully ready to grab a snack, do the kid routine (play, read, dinner, bath, sleep, etc) then spend some time studying for myself. But by the time I️ put them down I’m exhausted and end up binging on Netflix or crap on YouTube. How do you guys manage it?? Right now I’m feeling like a failure both as a mom and at work.
I’m 35 and feel like I’m super behind. Both the kids are adopted so I️ took time off each time and started at a new company when they were 6-9 months old. Many of my friends (all men) have made it to VP / manager / director roles and I’m at a senior DBA role.
Details - a 5yr old and a 2yr old. My husband is an equalish parent (he does his share of the kids and house work but I️ still have to remind him). Plus I’m in grad school taking classes 1-2 nights a week. At the rate I’m going I’ll be done with the degree when I’m 38. I mostly went back to school to switch to a Data Science career track and to feel more confident in my skill set. Am I️ crazy? Am I️ taking on too much? Tagging the major tech companies because it’s my goal to end up there.