Curious as to how much influence does your spouse have on your career decisions like accepting promotion, changing companies, etc. Edit: removed relo as we all agree that is different.
Relocation is a totally different type of thing from accepting promotion.
Spouse ~ Wife?
Wife, husband, partner, whatever your preference.
fwb?
Make her feel like a part of the decision, allow her to influence smaller things, respect her vetoes but usually manipulate my way to end up on top? :P
How does one spot a guy like you? I'd like to steer clear that's why. Can you anonymously tell me what characteristics to look out for? 🙂
Whoever 'liked' that reply, haha.. (Me included) I liked his reply because it can be understood in different ways -- I see the positive side. If you see value in something, I believe it is absolutely fine to go ahead override. After all, I cannot let my partner influence a decision which potentially impacts my co workers. I believe the two things that are tipping the balance between the positive and negative perspectives are "manipulate", "end up on top"! Diplomatic analysis, ain't it? 😄 😜
Spouse is more of a sounding board. Don't give too much info. And know that spouses have their own agenda. Mine wanted me to join a FANG so that her social status would rise.
I'm pretty sure the social status of being 1 / 100,000 Googlers isn't anything special. But I'll ask my wife
How does her social status rise with that? She's not the one working there. I've seen people that think that way but usually they don't have a career of their own and are housewives
This is blind, nobody is married here in man jose 🤣
It’s my spouse who made my career and wealth. She is the main inspiration on every decision I make. She told me join the company I’m currently in than I was going to join 10 years ago. Without her financial management. I wouldn’t be able to have 1.5MM (1MM vested and 500K unvested ) in my account. She didn’t allow me sell the RSUs. She always told that, Your company has big potential. All these is other than 1 house in USA (250k up from the date I bought) 3 fully paid houses in India (1.5 crors).
My decisions actually depend on my neighbors spouse.
I let the little things slide and hold my ground on the big things.
My wife decided all the small matters: where to live, when to have kids, how to raise them, where to go for vacations... I am in charge of big decisions: who should be president, whether US should invade Iraq, does UFO exist, us-china trade war...
None of these. I keep my spouse informed but make the decisions myself.
I think that would fall under “I don’t consult with the spouse.”
Keeping the spouse informed is more nuanced than just not consulting with them.