I’m American, my wife is southeast Asian. This isn’t really a cultural issue, but want to set the stage.
My wife has mentioned how I don’t really care about my father in law or brothers back home. Her mom is here in the US, and while I’m not perfect, I have offered to take care of her, let her life with us in the past, etc. if my wife wanted me to take care of her forever I would drop everything for it. She’s a great person.
My wife does an excellent job with my family (who live in the same city as us) so her point is absolutely valid.
But her father and brothers are a different story. Her dad is a cheater, gambler, possible sexual abuser. I don’t tell my wife but I have zero respect for him. He’s incredibly demanding, always wants stuff from my wife. It’s not even a cultural issue, I just don’t want him to have anything. Her brothers are lazy, refuse to work, and let their mother send them money home. It’s seriously a joke.
How should I approach this? My wife doesn’t work. I suppose I could start with easy stuff like birthdays and holidays and send them gift cards.
Thanks in advance!
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She’s married an American in the west and her grifter parents need to adjust expectations. Or she could get a job herself? I would never support my able bodied in laws who didn’t bother to work?
Good People in dire need are a different story. This family js just greedy
1. Gambler
2. Cheater
3. Abuser(Sexual)
Gambling is not a crime in the US.
Paid sex is not a crime in the US.
Sexual abuser - this looks like your imagination.
May be you need to stop judging people as well.
Personally I see a lot of allegations than facts.
If you really think you’re right assuming you’re right as we don’t know you - you need to go to civil court to sort things out.
Set the boundaries straight!
Be careful
I’ve made it pretty clear to her: would you like to live a lower lifestyle to “send money back home” and she’s like hell no lol