How to get over an interview rejection

Dec 26, 2019 23 Comments

i moved for a job after graduating, after spending 2 years here i hate it and want to go back to my hometown.

i had everything planned out, would move back and work at amazon. i studied leetcode after work every single day for 2 months, applied, got to the onsite, and was rejected. Worst part is that it was a 12 month cooldown, not even a 6 month, and i dont even know where i failed on. i never considered myself a genius, but failing to even clear amazon completely destroyed me.

its been over a week now, still feel like shit every single day. i have no appetite, lay in bed all day when off work, zero motivation to do anything at work. i even have literal dreams (wtf?) about all my coworkers going to amazon, while im left behind.

i have no close friends here, i hate the weather, i miss my hometown. i feel like i have no purpose or enjoyment in life, i used to enjoy my job, then i started imagining working at aws, and now i hate my job too. i guess this post is mostly venting, but i could really use some advice as well.

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  • Two Sigma QOwS48
    “Failing to even clear amazon” I mean this attitude is probably why you failed. you are underestimating Amazon. Amazon gets a lot of bad rep on blind but it is still quite competitive. You just need to set your attitude right, keep studying and keep trying.
    Dec 26, 2019 2
    • OP
      I meant more in comparison to other faangs, not necessarily in general. Obviously amazon is still competitive, but I don’t think I was underestimating amazon as I did put in the work.
      Dec 26, 2019
    • Two Sigma QOwS48
      You have to keep preparing and practicing for the second round, 12 month can go by quickly. Next time don’t just do one, but pick several choices around your target area, do onsite around the same time and interview for your dream company last.
      This will not only make sure you are prepared for the interview, but can also give you a few offers for negotiation.
      Dec 26, 2019
  • Try at other great companies! And amazon will call you again, keep applying. My friend interviewed at amazon 6 times in a year 😀.
    Dec 26, 2019 0
  • I posted this in another thread but a big part of interviewing is luck. Rejection or acceptance has a lot to do with luck. Luck that you get questions you’re familiar with. Luck that your interviewer isn’t having a bad day. Heck, I was a hiring manager before and we had shit candidates for months and then boom 2 great candidates. And I could only hire one. One was rejected even though if he only applied 1 month earlier he would have been hired.

    I also got kind of down and gloomy after rejections. Netflix and Dropbox rejected me after the recruiter call. Cruise rejected me after the first more technical call. Nerdwallet rejected me after the onsite. Robinhood never responded to my application. And Stripe I was referred in and didn’t even get a recruiter call (just rejected). But, I also got offers from Facebook, Google, Apple, and another “unicorn” startup. Do I know why specifically google would give me an offer but stripe (even with a referral) didn’t even want a recruiter to call me? No idea.

    I mean this might not help. When I was rejected by Netflix I was still moody and crawled into bed early and just felt bad myself that day. Just wanted to say it’s not you. Sometimes it’s just luck.
    Dec 26, 2019 1
    • New / Biz Dev Gravel-Ind
      Thanks man. Your response is helping me too.
      Dec 26, 2019
  • Amazon ch66jaaa
    Change your email, apply for a different team and you’re set!
    Dec 26, 2019 0
  • BBDO hPes60
    You need to find another hobby or interest besides coding. Life isn’t all about getting your dream job, because when you get your dream job and then realize it’s not like you imagined... you will have no purpose in life again.
    Dec 26, 2019 1
    • OP
      I used to have some hobbies, but basically for the past few months I’ve been focused on earning more money. It really makes me feel like shit when I see people making like 150k usd+ with the same yoe as me, when I’m making like 85k cad which isn’t even half of that.

      Amazon is one of the few companies in Canada that can actually get somewhat close to US salaries, which is why it hurts so much to be locked out for a year
      Dec 26, 2019
  • New / Strategy
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    You let the feeling pass. It's like going through grief stages. The important part is learning what you could have done better and improve for next time. It's hard to be rejected- just like in dating. You have feelings of inadequacy and get defensive about your merits and that it's everyone else's fault that you were rejected. However, in the overall scheme of things, the only person you can change is yourself so learn , improve, dust yourself off, and TRY AGAIN.

    Successful people aren't successful because they're always right and make the right moves. They're the ones who fail but get up and try again.
    Dec 26, 2019 0
  • It’s like one girl you want to love for the rest of your life! :)
    Word of advice:
    Believe in yourself and not in the success/failure.
    I know some people (including myself) who has been taking interviews rigorously with different companies- for 6 months (still going on..)

    When you go on an interview with a company, don’t dream about it. Prepare well and go with an attitude of learning something new. And forget the thought of how will they judge you, the result is not in your hands anyways. Even if you’re smart enough to crack it, if you keep thinking about it, you won’t be yourself and perform with your best. Also there are multiple reasons of getting a rejection (not just smartness or preparation)

    “Perform and walk away!”
    Keep taking interviews with different companies until you get one. If you keep crying about one failure how are you gonna go further. And if you don’t fail, how are you gonna achieve more??

    And btw, let me make you feel good, you might have got rejection from one, the others got rejected from 8-10 conpanies and they’re still going.

    Wipe your tears, stand up and keep interviewing until you get to one of your target companies. (Yes, it doesn’t have to be One target company)

    Everyone is in the same boat, you’re not alone.

    Treat interviews as your learning points, the more you take the more you will learn and become wiser. Treat them as your mock interviews, you will keep getting better.

    And I am sure you’ll crack it and get to one of your target companies! :)

    Hope this helps! Cheers...
    Dec 26, 2019 0
  • Oracle
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    Ask questions here. We have a lot who know how to play the system here and can find out why you failed and how to avoid it.
    Dec 26, 2019 2
    • OP
      What do you mean by this? I had 3 technical questions, im pretty sure I solved all 3 optimally with minimal hints (I made a small mistake for a greedy solution but fixed it after the interviewer pointed it out). My big mistake was I said that the time complexity of a permutation question was linear (I don’t know why I said this), I don’t know if this is an autoreject or not. I also didn’t do great on the OOD but who knows. I’m most concerned about the LPs, I have no idea if my examples sucked or what
      Dec 26, 2019
    • Oracle
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      You can post what you answered in a separated thread and people here will figure it out. Personally I really feel “optimally” is suspicious.
      Dec 26, 2019
  • Ironclad / Legal ⌐(ಠ۾ಠ)¬
    Dude. It's Amazon, consider that you dodged a bullet. Be happy that you are not working for them.
    Dec 26, 2019 0
  • HPE LKjF83
    This should only make you stronger

    Understand that "Pain makes a man think thought makes a man wise and wisdom makes life endurable"

    All you probably need now is to channel this pain and remember "this will pass" just like so many moments did, for you however the recipe is to not to let it pass but to embrace this and evolve through this
    Dec 26, 2019 0

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