My wife has never had a job as an adult ever. She is in her mid 30s. We had an arranged marriage and from India. I want her to acquire some skill and get a profession and a job. We have been married for more than 10 years and throughout this time I have encouraged her to do something for a career.
Current situation: we have an elementary school going kid and a 4 year old in day care (8 - 5)
Her day includes:
2 hours in the morning to get the kids ready and drop them
2 hours of cooking and taking care for our house
2 hours for evening time kids care
2 hours of personal care exercise, shower etc.
Giving 8 hours for sleep that still leaves 8 hours a day of un explained time. I have been trying to convince her that she should at least work/study 5 hours during the day.
Is this a reasonable expectation?
(I work 10 hours a day and do absolutely nothing for the house. I would like guidance from working parents on what I can do and how you split chores among yourself)
I told her that we will pretend to be a working parents until she acquired a skill and gets a job.
My TC 500k
Yoe 15
(SWE)
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Chill like a king and then expect other half to work and earn more and still do all the chores.
You can’t expect everything.
Lastly, 500k TC is way more than enough to feed a family of four
This same person will cry with tears of blood when he has to pay $2500 for Nanny every month for child care when her wife starts working 9-5
Nanny and house cleaning help are on the cards.
@groupon, yes I do upskill every day for 2 hours. I keep repeating the same LC questions. Plus acquire significant domain knowledge. I am in track for a 750k tc in a year, maybe 2. My personal goal is to reach a 1 million tc in 5 years.
Unless he was to get divorced. If you were in his spot, the next knot you'd be tying would be to the ceiling fan.
Don't preach. Besides, it's not just about TC. If his wife works, she can put money towards her own 401k, get some experience, skills, and contribute towards her social security. He doesn't need her money. But both would be better off provided he shares in all the chores she does.
Human life is not sticking to where we are, it is just taking yourself to one step forward at a time.
“How do I stop my husband from pushing me to get a job? I do all the house work, I take care of him and the kids, so that he can focus on his job. He is a good provider for the family and I’m doing my part to make sure he can stay focused and happy. But he keeps pressuring me to get a job. If I do that, who’s going to take care of the kids, him and the house? Who’s goin to do all the house work? I’m happy with what I do because I love my family. But I don’t think my husband understands my perspective..”
I have seen men like you in real life and what happens to the kids/wives. And going by the other comment somewhere here, your elder kid is not on path to a healthy human either, isn't it? I can imagine the horrible pressure your wife must be under. Trying to change a 35 year old adult when it's not even needed. Vitiating home atmosphere when it's not even needed.
Puke-worthy.
I wonder, however, are you a wife-beater as well.