I’m not in tech like the rest of you, but I do work at a popular startup in SF, so I guess that’s close enough. My friend sent this app to me tonight because we’re both dealing and have dealt with similar issues of harassment and assault in the workplace. Anyway, what I do know is that there are many other people out there who feel like me. Many, many, many women...and there are men too. These people, like me, want their life back. They want to stop having nightmares. They want to be able to go to work and not be afraid. They want to know that one small thing throughout the day won’t cause them to excuse themselves abruptly and run to the bathroom. Not because they actually have to use it, but because they don’t want their coworkers to see them crying for no apparent reason. They want to know why their harasser is beloved by so many people and why they buy his phony nice guy facade when they have been a victim of his harassment and in some cases, assault. And then when they try to speak up, they wonder why they are gaslighted so everyone thinks they are crazy. I know some women have it far worse than me, but this does hurt. This is torture and I’m thankful I have a place to just say all of this even if no one reads it. I just want no other woman to deal with this. That’s what I want. #MeToo
This brought back memories. While it really sucks, those kinds of experiences can help make you very tough and resilient if you can get through it.
Get out of there! No job, no matter how good on paper, is worth that. Yes, you shouldn’t have to be the one to leave it if you are the one being harassed. The fact that he is getting away with it is bullshit. But sometimes it’s more important to take care of yourself and your mental health than to “do the right thing”.
I’m sure it’s easier said than done to just get out. But I agree, you should get out if you can.
Have you looked at your finances so you can decide when to get out at the earliest ? I am sorry for how you feel. Been there. Had to get out . Ultimately got another job in 1.5 months , and never looked back since last 3 years !
First of all you don’t deserve this. Second, use this platform to report this asshole. At least it will start bringing his true side through this unfiltered platform.
Or maybe, just maybe sue him/her and let the judicial system do its job? But I guess it is easier to ruin someone reputation over rumors rather than actually investigating the issue 😞
Why not blow the whistle?
Sorry to hear it OP. This app or the hashtag is not going to help you out. You have to report a crime whenever it is committed.
OP, if serious, start interviewing and land something else. Before you give notice, go to HR to get documentation that you tried to work it out with company. Then file charges w/police for any assaults or harassment. Then sue. Do not tell other people about this, though. Talk to lawyer and extremely close friends only. It’ll work out. Speaking from experience.
I don’t think going to HR is the right move. They protect the company more than the employees, especially if potential lawsuits are involved.
It helps to build a case against the company when they are negligent, *after OP already has offer elsewhere.
Here’s what you need to do. Document it and gather up evidence and tell HR. Once it happens about 3 times and there is still an issue. Time to contact a good lawyer. You might have to go somewhere else to work. Sue your company using said lawyer, you will likely win. My friend did this, she was given a huge package and she was able to leave and search for a new job. This isn’t legal advice but just ask a lawyer first
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It's sad that anybody has go through that. Reading this, I want you to know that your voice is heard. You are not crazy, you are not alone.