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I’m a VP at a start-up with great 3 year growth and lots of potential. The work is hard, we’re solving tough challenges. What’s been great is that the people are fantastic and there are minimal office politics. A week ago I shared something in confidence with a colleague that I thought was a friend. She shared it. I won’t go into details, but the end affect is that I hurt the feelings of a peer that I had a great relationship with and I broke my CEOs trust. I feel terrible and know that I’ve created office politics where none existed previously. I fear the damage can’t be fixed. Things will never be the same, we were all really tight.. I doubt that can be recovered. Should I resign without a job? Swallow my pride and stick it out until I find a job? Swallow my pride and play the long game in hopes of repairing the lost trust? I’m lost. I don’t know what to do. TC: 250k, YOE: 15, Marketing
TC?
Need more context. How serious was the trust-breaking revelation?
This sounds really rough. I don’t have advice for getting through this situation but I do have advice for the future. It’s what I learned early in my career and maybe you have learned now, the hard way. If I want something to be a secret, I have to keep it a secret. I can’t tell someone and ask them to keep it a secret.
You need to share TC, YOE, engg/ pm : finance role etc. details for a pertinent opinion Based on what you shared - don’t resign without finding a new job . Don’t run away from a leadership role without owning and fixing your mistake. Own what you said - all hands meeting / 1:1 you choose how you want to talk about it. You have to nip the gossip in the bud by saying - this is what I said and what I meant. I made an error of judgement No need to twist my words and let’s move on
How would those details give any more information that was actually relevant to his problem?
Just start looking for another job while wait and see if things turn out to be ok. In the end you are the VP, and manage/ minimize office politics should be taken as job responsibility.
Ok, you made a big mistake, although you're a bit vague about what it was. I think the only way to move forward is to truly own up to it and make a real apology to everyone involved. That means you need to go to everyone you named and have a talk that includes three things: 1) what you did wrong 2) a true understanding of why it hurt them and 3) how you are going to change in the future. And for 3) I think it may be appropriate to offer to resign. Paradoxically if you say that you understand your actions may have broken the relationship beyond repair and that you would understand if the other person doesn't want to work with you anymore, that can be a step towards forgiveness and fixing things. It's really hard but being open that you made a big mistake and being willing to accept the consequences is the best way to get through this. And yeah, depending on what you did, there may not be a future for you at this company, but I wouldn't give up hope entirely. Good luck.
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No offense intended but you sound young. That's okay :-). Make a decision to be 100% open and honest about what you did and how it broke trust, and sincerely ask people to forgive you. They probably will, but even if they don't, you can rest easy knowing you did the right thing. This is an important personal precedent to set. If you come through this, your team will be even stronger. Human relationships are greatly strengthened by mutually persevering through trials.
You need to learn your lesson and fix things. 1) Confront the person who leaked your info - that was an error on your part to share sensitive politicized info - vow never to do it again - explain to her the consequences and apologize for putting them in this position 2) Have a 1-1 with the CEO - explain why you thought the way yo did and admit you made a mistake - Assure them you believe in their leadership and you have learnt a lesson. 3) Apologize to the person who you maligned or hurt - and explain how sorry you are to have made an error in judgment. The only way to move forward is to own your immature behavior and assure others you are a leader and team player, who can learn from their mistake. Good luck
Address it head on. Meet with the impacted persons privately and 1:1. Own up to your mistake. Ask for forgiveness. Explain you learned and will grow from this.
Sorry.. small start-up so I wanted to make sure the company name didn’t show up with my post.
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