I knew him for a few years. He used to be my boss. I keep getting panic attacks in the office. He’s very sorry and apologized but I can’t stop feeling ashamed. I have started seeing a therapist and it has helped a lot but I won’t report him. I don’t want him to lose his job or cause his family stress. I guess I just needed to tell someone.
You should report him. That can stop next victim.
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He still works here. Doubt he uses blind but I still don’t feel comfortable. I want to forgive him but I’m worried he’s not the nice person I thought he was.
At the very least, you should help people avoid them since obviously they’re not a good person
Report it he'll do it to others if he gets away with it.
Extremely sorry to hear that. Please feel free to DM me if you want to talk.. It takes immense courage to go through what you’re going.. wish you the best of everything 🤗
I feel so ashamed. I don’t know why he picked me. I feel like I did something to encourage it.
@BigLove, you are not blame for this. Whoever assaulted you should pay the price. As the saying goes “you commit a crime you do the time”. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, it is not your fault.
Doesn't look like you're looking for advice, so I won't give any. I am truly sorry that happened to you, and I hope you'll be able to get through this and back to feeling comfortable wherever you are. It isn't right that someone can't feel safe in their workplace.
So sorry this happened to you. Glad to hear the therapist is helping. But you need to report him. You probably aren’t his first victim and if you don’t report him you likely won’t be his last. Getting reported might give him the jolt he needs to get help.
He should be ashamed, NOT YOU! You may have your own reasons for not reporting him, but chances are that he will do it again because he got away without anyone consequences. Me and a million others would suggest that you report it, but if you decide against it - just make sure that the SOB knows how big of a favor you're doing him by not reporting and that he should be eternally grateful, forever in your debt.
I know but if he really did just make a mistake I don’t want to ruin his life. I’ve never imagined he could do something like this.
@biglove dm me if you want to talk. Been in a similar situation in the past. I promise not to provide unsolicited advice.
This happens often. I’m so sorry. Feel free to dm me.
What happened exactly? Was it a physical sexual assault like he forced himself on you for a kiss or something worse? If that is the case then you should think about changing your decision. If it’s something like he had a crush on you and was trying to flirt with you to get the sense then may be it’s ok. You just need to determine the degree of assault
You need to protect the next person that he might do this to, not his family
I brought this up with a crisis counselor and I’m very glad they told me not to think of what else he could do. My job is to take care of myself and if he does this to someone else that’s on him. I shouldn’t have to burden myself with being responsible for his potential future actions. Because I was beating myself up for this.
😳 your crisis counselor seems like a corporate drone. You fail the society if you dont report crimes.