Examples: What did you learn over the years by making mistakes, or seeing others make a mistake. What are useful things for promotion consideration. What best practices when interacting with people in the office. How to realize it's time to leave. (I tag 3 big companies whose employees must have seen a lot of these things..)
Tech Industry
2d
51872
Goog Employees Arrested
India
Yesterday
1670
Lost respect for Modiji
Tech Industry
Yesterday
6120
Google doing more layoffs, restructuring including country moves
Software Engineering Career
Yesterday
540
Simple rejection email after multiple rounds of interviews
Tech Industry
Yesterday
1142
So hard being a women in tech industry
Call out folks for doing a great job in front of large audiences (especially in front of managers). Other than just being an awesome thing to do, others will project those good vibes back onto you and associate you with doing a great job.
Know your audience. Be careful criticizing people's plans if there's a chance they are going to get salty about it, especially if they are higher in the reporting chain than you.
Key work here is “be careful.” This doesn’t mean never do it. If you do it right and you have decent leadership, it can be greatly appreciated and earn you a lot of respect.
If you are right, you gotta prove it. Otherwise you'll just be branded as someone who doesn't get the whole picture.
When your manager starts telling you “hey, you should do this or you might get fired” every day (even when you’re surpassing expectations), it’s time to either get promoted or get out. It’s time to leave when the company no longer does internal promotions and you’re facing almost daily harassment from management. Don’t ever let anyone know just how unhappy you might be at work. Instead, every unsatisfactory situation is “just a rough patch but we can get through it guys if we sit down and communicate!” Don’t ask for a new manager when you’ve exhausted all options for trying to work with your current one (like doing communication sessions together, etc). If you ask for a new manager, there will be retaliation, guaranteed. Either play it smart and sweet and get promoted or go elsewhere. Avoid the office gossip; the most you should be gossiping about is where a company party might be held or good gossip about exciting, positive things the company is doing. Listen to other people and show that you do care about them (at least at the office) and are willing to be a listening ear, helpful resource, etc. But don’t throw yourself under the bus in order to help someone else out. They’ll appreciate it immensely and never reciprocate. Finally: 1. Don’t date a coworker, 2. Remember that office friends usually don’t last once you leave that office/role, and 3. Don’t drink the company koolaid because it’ll wreck your work/life balance faster than anything else. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
I've already done some of these...guess damage is done. Everybody knows how unhappy I am! I actually told many ppl and managers to 3 levels higher, that I thought the offer they gave me was low and I'm underleveled. All they do is to tell me "you're gonna get promoted soon"
It’s not irreparable unless you get fired. I’ve done literally every single thing I’ve listed out so been there, done it, don’t recommend it. Change is always possible, just remember it’s a gradual process. Everyone knows how unhappy I’ve been in my role and that my manager and I despise each other; it’s one of the reasons why she blacklisted me from the last three promotions I was qualified for. But seriously on the dating a coworker bit: don’t do it. Even if things end well, it’s still awkward, and you get a bit of a reputation at work just for dating one other person in the office. :/
What is the story behind dating, as a General rule its never a good thing but seems like you have first hand experience. Share the learning if you are comfortable doing so!
Thankfully no one knew we were dating until after we ended things. He and I set up communication rules for our relationship and in case of a breakup, and we stuck to our plan so the breakup itself wasn’t rough at all and we’re still friends. But once other people on the team found out, everyone assumed that both of us only dated people from work and we never heard the end of it.
So office folks think you only date co workers ? That’s absurd
Network, network & more network
Where?
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One trick is to look happy, express excitement about whatever the managemt throws at you- visibly and verbally excited. And participate in politics.. without forming enemies. First step of always being excited is half the battle, second is to find some positive in every person and appreciating them for it. Its really not easy.
It's very hard. I'm by nature an unhappy person, I have natural tendency to pick up the smallest negative things and feel terrible about them. I am always unsatisfied, and I project all these, because I don't try not to, and I'm also very honest, direct and transparent. So you suggest I should learn to hide this very dominant characteristic of mine?
Try to give your coworkers undeserved grace just because their your coworkers.. you see them more than your family
Find and stay with a good manager who believes in you.
Not enough. Stay with a management chain that believes in you is more accurate. ;)
There are wolves and then there are sheep. Pick which one you want to be
Did you hear this in a video game
Nah, every now and then your mom drops knowledge on MySpace
No social politics No identity politics Be fair Be cool Don’t date inside the office Don’t talk salaries Be consistent Make friends with the gatekeepers Mimic senior management Learn not to GAF about what people think (except your management team) Be loyal Maintain tenure Learn to say NO Always double check your references Avoid gossip Never join a union Stay in shape (when was the last time you saw a fat CEO)? BTW: Oprah doesn’t count Also: If you’re vegan, paleo friendly, kosher, halal, macrobiotic, keto... STFU about it Never lie Never say more than what you need to say
How to recognize gatekeepers?
Executive assistants, resource coordinators, heads of security, handlers that manage VP and CxO agendas. Never make friends with HR... HR is not doing their job until they make it so you can’t do yours
Don't participate in gossip. Just be a good listener and be aware of the relationship dynamics.
What is considered gossip in the context of a workplace?
Just don't say something about someone else that you would be uncomfortable saying to their face.