Inform manager about depression ?

Oct 23, 2019 27 Comments

I am a new mom and suffering from post-partum depression. I manage a team of 9 engineers and seeing a decline in my own efficiency to perform. Should I inform my boss about my situation?

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  • Google dhokla
    No. There’s little incentive for the manager to support you. Talk to a specialist and figure out the steps to get back to your old self. Take time off if needed.
    Oct 23, 2019 1
    • Amazon EGcm42
      OP
      Thanks for the advice. Yes. I think nothing good will come out of it.
      Oct 23, 2019
  • Amazon Lollol
    See if you can take time off on health grounds. FMLA or something similar. Also you are doing great and don’t let negative feelings take over. Focus on your and baby’s health. Lean on your partner, family and friends. Most importantly TALK and do not isolate yourself. I can relate as we just had a baby but I am the dad.
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • F5 Networks wait,what?
    FMLA covers mental and behavioral health issues. It’s also part of ADA and you are a protected employee.

    I’d take time off and consider stepping away from a manager role if it’s causing issues.
    Oct 23, 2019 3
    • F5 Networks wait,what?
      Well, then, it sounds like you need help from your doctor. If you can get a prescription and start going to therapy, it will definitely help. Or you can start looking for less stressful companies.

      At this point, I’m pretty sure you’re aware of your options. Try to build a support group around you that will help you tread water until the storm is over. You’ll get there, it just takes time.
      Oct 23, 2019
    • Amazon EGcm42
      OP
      Thank you!
      Oct 23, 2019
  • Microsoft
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    Depends on the relationship you have with your manager.
    Oct 23, 2019 3
    • MathWorks 😊Smile😊
      If he is a good boss, I don’t think any type of situation for any of his employee under him should be petty for him. I would say go and talk.
      Oct 23, 2019
    • DigitalOcean notfaang
      I agree. Maybe a wake up call that he’s not actually a good boss is you don’t feel you can go to him with things even things that affect your team. Focus on getting better and getting a new team/job once you’re ready. So sorry you’re dealing with this- it’s so common but I’m sure the opposite of what you had hoped for after the baby arrived. It can only get better from here.
      Nov 29, 2019
    • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
      I would suggestion caution when discussing this with your manager.
      Oct 23, 2019
    • Amazon EGcm42
      OP
      Thanks for the info. I don’t want to be on the offense with this topic. It’s really very sensitive and already very hard to talk about - even with my close ones.
      Oct 23, 2019
  • Uber jpfw462
    Amazon is a horrible workplace for new parents, take time off if possible
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • New waas87
    Most managers I have worked with (all white) would recommend to take your time- vacation or sick, and relax. Nobody would send to HR or did any destructive action.
    Oct 23, 2019 4
    • Amazon EGcm42
      OP
      Thanks. I do have vacation time left, but I have no idea what to actually do during that time. It’s not like I can travel alone with my infant and unplug. My husband has exhausted his leaves so I will pretty much end up at home isolated and possibly worsening my situation.
      I could take the 1-2 week leave that I have left, but only if I know I will recover at the end of it.
      Oct 23, 2019
    • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
      Holidays are coming up. Could take some time for those.
      Oct 23, 2019
  • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
    A woman recently won a lawsuit against her employer for being fired while having Post Partum depression. This article may help you better understand your rights.
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • New waas87
    Take vacation
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • What do you expect from your manager?
    Oct 23, 2019 3
    • Great... put it that way in a 1-1 (to learn on team members and grow on your level. Ask him/her what the opinion is?).
      IOW, can you avoid saying you need extra buffer? (I wish it’s not that way, but unfortunately it is).
      Oct 23, 2019
    • E*Trade / Finance cbEV72
      I’m afraid that’s not a reasonable request. It’s unfair to other employees. I’d immediately contact hr and seek advice on handling the situation if I were your manager. There are other tools to address illnesses such as long term disability etc
      Oct 31, 2019

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