Is it possible to make friends at work?
What is your take on this? I’ve been working full-time for around 2 years, and I never really think I managed to make “friends” from work. I converse with them after work, we drink together, but I never felt like I could open up privatley to coworkers. What is your opinion on this? Can you really make friends from work? If yes, how, and if no, why not?
Why can't you open up to co-workers? Talk about terrible bosses, dating life, etc. Be more vulnerable to selective co-workers you trust to build relationships.
Because telling people your weaknesses opens you up to their exploitation.
This quest is highly influenced by age of voter, and where they live
Lucky that at least you guys drink together.
In my experience co-workers who are friends eventually screw you over. Best to leave them as co-workers and remember that they aren't your friends. Everyone has an agenda. Your first priority is to protect yourself and your livelihood.
I live in Noe Valley, my hood isn’t very lively. Is it still worth protecting? Or should I go to tenderloin where the hood is much more lively?
Savage af
Tried and failed.
I would say anyone at your level or below might use some of the information on you to promote themselves. Even if is an unconscious joke on how you get wasted, or how fun your parties are..etc. This kind of attention ends up with someone else defining your future.
^This. When I was at Amazon years ago, most of our team were at a party at a colleague's house. Not a work thing. This guy who was a really good programmer got totally shit faced. So shit faced that if I hadn't known where he lived, he would not have been able to get himself home...three months later he was on a PIP based on peer feedback and he was out six weeks later. Meanwhile two other idiot SWEs who could not code their way out of a paper bag were still employed there 1.5 years later when I left. So while I'm all for being FRIENDLY with a coworker, I am not sure about being FRIENDS with them.
If you don’t hang out after work you’re not really friends. If you hang out after work, it’s easy to keep being friends after you or them quit.
Only by keeping in touch after leaving the company
This!