Apparently, they already got the VP approval. If they weren't gonna raise it to above 250K mark, then why the heck did they need VP approval? Also, please note that my feedback was amazing. I'm basically already an SDE III.
Don’t think anyone is going to rescind an offer just because you asked for more money, as long as you do it professionally. In the worst case they would pass you on to another team if they have another candidate with similar interview performance and ready to accept.
I would just give out the TC numbers you want to recruiter and wait for them to match it. Again, the best leverage is a competing offer.
I would stall amazon. Try to sit on that offer as long as possible. Go out and crack Microsoft, sales force, and LinkedIn. Then go back to amazon with offers in hand. Start a bidding war and I think you can bring your package to the high 200s. These other companies will easily and willingly compete and beat that amazon 230k offer if you crack the sh*t out of their interview.
SDE2 is a hard profile to fill, so you have room for sure. They will push back and tell you things like you likely won’t get a raise in year 1, and that refreshed and raises you do get will be lower in the future. Which are both valid points. If you value seeing an increase in your TC every year. If you want to get as much money as possible up front and don’t care about future increases, ask for more than you think you can get and let them meet you in the middle