Joy of having kids and family?

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B-ku Matre

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Dec 3, 2021 21 Comments

I turn 41 this week and unmarried by choice.. occasionally I get desire that I wish I had a family of own and kids. I have Asperger’s so socializing and partying for me is burnout and stressful. With no good ability to read people or emotions I often think life is either yes or no and hence end up alone.. which is fine by me as I think it’s ok.

I really don’t get bothered by these thoughts.. but during thanksgiving when I was driving back after picking up dinner and saw restaurant full with families celebrating the thanksgiving I asked myself what it would be to have a family of my own? That thought remained with me for few days until I started watching some shows on Netflix to have a change of thought..

What are best things you witness as parents? I am not talking new born babies, the diaper changing, the bonding time in first 2-3 years.. I am specific to 5 and above..

What are some good parenting books to read? What would you suggest a person who was pretty much not close to their parents growing up (no abuse) to read to understand what it is to be a dad or what it is to be a mom?

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  • Google
    hghk

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    hghk
    Watching your kids' success is very fulfilling.
    Dec 3, 2021 3
  • Microsoft
    thewiseone

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    thewiseone
    I think people become parents for selfish reasons. It’s super stressful managing kids - ensuring they study well and are on the right track, etc. It’s a very HUGE responsibility. It’s just never ending. You start developing expectations from them but most of the time you’ll be disappointed. Come old age and you’ll be alone with no one to take care of you. There are of course good times. But overall I think the cons most definitely outweigh the pros. I’ve 2 kids btw and love them. I’m not discouraging you just setting the right expectations.
    Dec 3, 2021 4
  • New
    kfFY78

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    kfFY78
    If you don't have the "I want to be a father someday" feeling, you probably won't enjoy it. Stay single and use protection.
    Dec 3, 2021 0
  • You will understand the meaning of unconditional love. Helping a soul grow into this world and letting them chase their dreams when they come of age. Kids give your life another purpose. Just adopt one and if you don’t like it, don’t take it forward.
    Dec 3, 2021 3
    • Indeed
      ablatra

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      ablatra
      Lol get a dog for cheaper and lower commitment unconditional love. This argument is bs. Also please don’t adopt a human and return them.
      Dec 3, 2021
    • Adoption agency won’t give you the kid straight away. There would be some time where kid just stays with you for some time and it is mutually decided that kid is happy with you.
      Dec 3, 2021
  • Facebook / Eng
    dfb

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    dfb
    Having kids is tiring and expensive and it comes with a lot of responsibility. But just watching them grow and change everyday would blow away all these negativities above for me.
    Dec 3, 2021 0