Sick of things going on!!

Apr 17, 2021 9 Comments

Hi everyone,

I am happy in my career. I love whatever I am doing, I know its Fidelity and some of you will be like REALLY!! But the answer is Yes! My project is really cool but personally I am sick of things going on!!
I am dating a guy from the past 5 years He is the best thing happened to me! We are living together from the past 3 years and very happy but the thing is his parents were never aware about are relationship until Jan. They are very conservative.
So, In Jan he told about me to his parents as his parents started looking for a girl for him for marriage! They disagreed on our relationship and its now 3 months almost they don’t talk about me at all. He tries to mention me in the conversation but they simply ignore. I tell him some tricks to mention me somewhere in the conversation but every time I tell him something I feel like I am not doing the right thing, I feel like I am the bad person and He very less executes it so I feel more bad. For Example - I recent told him to send them our group pictures!
I really want to love his family as much as I do mine and want to get settled together but these parent’s issues are getting on my nerves now and he not addressing it and not understanding how I am feeling this is more frustrating!!
Any kind of advise will be appreciated!!!
Thanks
#relationships #burnout

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  • Amazon
    spceghost

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    spceghost
    There's only so much you can do. Trying to change how others feel about you is never helpful nor required.

    All that matters is if the guy loves you. You have to be okay if his family never accepts you. You cannot or rather must not base your happiness on his family accepting you.
    Apr 17, 2021 0
  • New / Eng
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    Sorry that you are in this situation. The important factors here are whether he is ready to do whatever it takes to convince them. And are you both ready to be patient and preserve? My best friend was in a similar situation. It was very messy and it ended after them being in it for 2-3 years, mainly because the guy wasn't able to make any progress at all, the parents still weren't ready to budge after 3 years and my best friend no longer trusted him. It's important you guys talk about this and make sure you both are on the same page. Are you both ready to keep on it and be patient? Do you trust him to not give up if the convincing takes more time? I have also seen a situation like this creating serious issues in the relationship, so make sure you address it too. If you both are sure you want this, you have to be each other support system and not let the parents' disapproval create a rift between the two of you.
    Apr 17, 2021 2
    • Thank you so much for advise!!! Currently we are trying to be on the same page.... I feel like I am only the thinker in this, he is usually in his own zone!! My parents are also actively involved in this so they keep on asking me again and again if there is some progress!! I don’t blame my parents either they have always supported me.
      But the entire situation is creating a mess😞
      I’ll try to execute what you advised ThanksπŸ™‚
      Apr 17, 2021
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      Yeah, I can imagine it getting frustrating for you if you feel like you are the only one trying to sort this out. Try to convey this to him, and also try to make him understand the situation with your parents as well. And as much as it hurts me to say this, in a south asian culture, a situation like this is much more difficult for the girl than it for the boy. If he has any siblings who are supportive, may be try talking to them? Or if he has any close friends who know his parents and can make a case for you guys? Also, you can dm if anytime if you want to talk :)
      Apr 17, 2021
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    98south
    I'm curious what you mean when you say his parents are conservative and why that's a problem for your relationship
    Apr 18, 2021 0
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    failed fast
    Elope
    Apr 17, 2021 1