How to respond calmly to someone trying to rush me on squat rack?

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oceanchild

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Jul 14, 2021 64 Comments

I did 5x5 squat then 5x5 overhead press on rack, 3 min rest in between each set

Guy asks me how many sets I have left half way through, I tell him 5 sets. I politely offer for him to jump in, he declines

I stretch in between sets, but my rest is timed on an app, so it doesn’t add to my rest period

When I have 1 set left, I let him know I’m wrapping up. Instead of thanking me, he gets passive aggressive saying “next time you should hurry up instead of stretching, it’s rude of you to keep others waiting, especially because you’re only doing 3 reps per set”

I responded that I am resting in between compound lifts, and that he shouldn’t be rushing people or else they might get injured, and to wait his turn like I did

It goes back and forth briefly with him getting offended, and me telling him that he’s the one that’s being disrespectful. I end up telling him sternly to shut the fuck up and get out of my face (without raising my voice), and that instead of doing my deadlifts elsewhere out of courtesy, I will do them here instead. He cowers in white pearl clutch fashion

I put back in my headphones and take my time finishing

I am usually in control of my emotions but this really set me off and I could’ve easily done something stupid like punched him in the face. He was an entitled brat but my reaction was unnecessary

What is the appropriate reaction to this? Basically, how do you deal with a Karen without resorting to putting them in their place?

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    upwarddog

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    upwarddog
    You sound like an entitled asshole. If there’s only one squat rack in the gym and you’re doing 5 sets with 3 mins between each set, no wonder he’s getting impatient
    Jul 14, 2021 11
  • He’s 100% in the wrong for telling you to “hurry up” which is what triggered your response (I would have felt the same). However, dude 3 minutes of rest is a ridiculously long time especially if you’re doing 10 sets. If i saw someone just hanging around the rack for 3 minutes without working out i’d be like wtf is this guy doing. I see your logic of maximizing rest for PR’ing but others will not see it that way. It sucks but people may see your rest time as “hogging” even though that is not your intent. but yeah fuck that guy if someone told me to hurry id tell him i’m gonna add in 5 more sets now
    Jul 14, 2021 4
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      RobotGoBrr

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      RobotGoBrr
      3 minutes between heavy squat sets is not a 'ridiculously long time' unless you're working well below 1RM.

      I've struggled in the same scenario as OP, but my general response these days is "I'm not going to risk missing a lift or going to snap city because you're impatient, bro." Not overly confrontational, it's tit-for-tat and you're extending the olive branch of congeniality. If he presses, tell him to fuck off (lmao nogains) and put your headphones back in.
      Jul 15, 2021
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      oceanchild

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      OP
      @amazon thanks for the great advice, this is why I made the thread. Seems like a good general approach
      Jul 15, 2021
  • 3 mins between sets for 10 sets total is a lot. You had the rack held up for over 30 mins which is kinda bullshit if you ask me. Having someone jump in between sets is a nice offer but generally doesn’t work well.
    Jul 14, 2021 1
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      oceanchild

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      OP
      That’s fair, I had more issue with his passive aggressive comments than his logic
      Jul 14, 2021
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    LPUP28

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    LPUP28
    Def on the rack for a long time but you offered to have him work in so you’re not in the wrong
    Jul 14, 2021 3
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      bvgnwehg

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      bvgnwehg
      I dunno, taking 30-40 mins on a squat rack is a LOT, even if you offer to alternate. Because the other person has to work around your schedule for 30-40 mins.
      Jul 14, 2021
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      jr4

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      jr4
      Came to post this. You offered to let him work in so you’re in the clear.
      Jul 16, 2021
  • You probably didn't squat below parallel and that triggered him
    Jul 14, 2021 0