feeling depressed thinking about the past

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ExGrouponr

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ExGrouponr
May 20, 2020 42 Comments

When i was 22 i had so much energy and enthusism but 3-4 years of Green card issues, h1b fears and stuff made me too scared of jumping on new opportunities at better Tech names while I was younger where i could learn more and grow so much more. Instead i was stuck at this low quality completet shit company (groupon) for so many years and now i think of how i wasted some of the best years of my life out of fear and didnt take on new jobs. Even though i got my green card i feel it came at a big price for my career . additionally i have had a couple of bad managers in the past and because of that my self esteem was badly damaged and even now i get sad and depressed thinking about it. i was also lost my first 3 years or so out of college not knowing what kind of job i wanted to do. i always had this dream of also traveling and living in many different countries while young but because of h1-b i was too scared of ever taking the jump and leaving the US

Now im almost 30 and i feel sad thinking about how much more succeesful i could be right now and its not just about more money and prestige at FANG etc but also being intellectually challenged at work by solving difficult problems which my employer didnt have. i feel sad thinking that if i didnt have h1-b and green card fears etc i could have taken more risks and be in a better place. i now have a new beter job but is 29 too late to shake the past and will i have to always play catch up to others in my field? i see my other friends so much more successful and it makes me sad that im just some shit tier Tech guy who’s doing nothing interesting with their life

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  • Amazon
    woopscat

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    woopscat
    You got one life buddy. Still 50 more years until you’re 80, so stop focusing on what’s behind you and start looking towards what are you going to do now.
    May 20, 2020 0
  • Facebook
    shark-week

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    shark-week
    If you only compare yourself with people more successful you will always play catch-up. Not all roles are mentally challenging at the FAANGs. Try to focus on your personal life. Relationships are more important than prestige.
    May 20, 2020 3
    • Huawei / Eng
      eateateate

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      eateateate
      There's lots of stories on blind showing people who spent many years at small companies suddenly make the jump to FANNG and get similar TC.

      The timing doesn't matter that much. If you want to be senior at FAANG you can still do it easily
      May 20, 2020
    • Facebook
      shark-week

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      shark-week
      It’s not like you’re 50. I also started at a small company. Not everyone is a rockstar at FAANG. Try to find a better team where you are and work on joining a more challenging company.
      May 20, 2020
  • Move / QA
    realtoor

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    realtoor
    Age is just a number. 30 is still young. Indians face same issues like you till they turn 60, so consider yourself lucky.
    May 20, 2020 0
  • Dude you are just 30, it's not too late
    May 20, 2020 0
  • New / Eng
    jcRK78

    New Eng

    PRE
    Facebook, Microsoft
    jcRK78
    You need to be happy within yourself. You don’t need a FANG job for that and life doesn’t owe you anything because you should be senior blah. Make the most of what you have and don’t live with such comparisons. Someone is always gonna be living a better life than you even when you’re at FANG. (I have 10 years experience at FANG before I quit and there were always ppl doing better than me). I.e I should have gone to an Ivy if I was born in this country, oh look what happens when you grow up rich, oh I should have kids by now, oh my kids are not as smart as their kids, there’s always more to be unhappy about if that’s how you choose to be.
    Your worth does not equal your company.
    May 20, 2020 0