My boss doesnt seem to understand boundaries.

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HPnU18

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HPnU18
Aug 3, 2020 60 Comments

I WFH and if she calls me and I dont answer, she will FaceTime me! She doesn’t get it that perhaps I am in the bathroom or brushing my teeth, or dressing. It’s as though she owns every minute of every hour. I am not able to eat breakfast, lunch, take a break, go to the bathroom, or anything. I need the job and I am only a contractor, but I am at a breaking point in this pandemic. I have tried to say “Sometimes I need a private moment.” She still doesnt understand. Today I got nlamed for setting up a meeting that she set up that conflicts with another meeting. I was not involved with it whatsoever. I offered to help and she said No.
I am now an anxious wreck and never know when Mommy Dearest is going to call. She has called about seven times this morning and it’s not even noon. She bailed on big exec meetings she was supposed to be in and instead called me.
Help! Stressed out EA.

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  • Amazon
    De$i

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    De$i
    You guys need to agree on the stop-word
    Aug 3, 2020 1
  • geez, gl.
    Aug 3, 2020 0
  • ACOG
    SbIR60

    ACOG

    SbIR60
    Wow. That’s not healthy and sounds super toxic. Are you paid hourly? If you are I hope you’re billing her appropriately!
    Aug 3, 2020 0
  • Sound Transit
    HPnU18

    Sound Transit

    HPnU18
    OP
    She’s a well-versed highly respected manager. 67 years old.
    Since I wrote this she has called four more times. I tried to put my chickens inside their coop, taking five minutes, and my husband ran my phone out to me saying “She’s calling!” I had to take it. I’m a nervous wreck. Granted I have a job, paid hourly, but geez, I am getting paid rates from 2006, well below what I should get and dumb-down work. I don’t do presentations, spreadsheets, travel, expenses, order supplies, or anything. I do write eloquent thank you notes or goodbye letters for her. I am at my wits-end.
    Aug 3, 2020 8
    • Google
      spr1ng

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      spr1ng
      Tibco do you work every single minute of your work day without breaks? She's free to use her breaks as she pleases
      Jan 20, 2021
    • Sound Transit
      HPnU18

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      HPnU18
      OP
      Thanks Google and Nuance! And yes, I was only allowed to put down 40 hours and worked more than that and sometimes she would call me at 6pm! We are in a pandemic trying to work from home. Not working from home in a pandemic. Not being able to go to the bathroom and she calls and calls and then FaceTimes me if I don’t pick up is a problem. But I got laid off 9/10 anyway, so it’s a non-issue anyway.
      Looking for another abuser now. Ha ha! JK.
      Looking for a reasonable person/team to work with now.
      Jan 22, 2021
  • Okta
    wrangle

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    wrangle
    Take their call while shitting. Add grunts, plops and etc.
    Aug 3, 2020 2
    • Sound Transit
      HPnU18

      Sound Transit

      HPnU18
      OP
      Gross!!!
      Aug 3, 2020
    • Sound Transit
      HPnU18

      Sound Transit

      HPnU18
      OP
      Would a boss drag someone out of a stall in the office?!?? NO!!!!! P
      Aug 3, 2020