I miss my partner so much and it feels like I have a lot of time at hand (works in another city). How do you keep yourself busy or distract from this missing feelings ? (Other than existential day to day time pass like Netflix, cooking, sleeping, walking- please tell me what u do / suggest something nice and I ll share something fun back with you )
switch jobs
Ya but in the meantime?
Move to Canada
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LMAO "teledildonics" might be the best word ever created.
Do you guys face time all the tims? That helps. Are you planning to relocate?
First donāt try to run from that feeling or cover it up with mind numbing things. Look at it as an opportunity to really remind yourself of why you chose and continue to choose to spend your life with your partner. Once you have a solid grasp on that. Write it down on a nice piece of paper and mail it home. You will be surprised how good putting that letter in the mail will make you feel, and that is nothing compared to how grateful your partner will feel when they eventually receive a random letter from you. After that is done realize that itās a great thing to care about someone so much that things just donāt feel quite right without them around. The uncomfortable feelings you describe are strange because you arenāt used to them. They are not necessarily bad or something you need to distract yourself from. Now Iām not saying you should go full emo and start writing bad poetry in a dark room. Just try the things out that I mentioned. It shouldnāt take too long. After that then enjoy the time you have to yourself. You donāt have to feel guilty for trying to figure out who you are separate from your partner. Hell you will have just spent time reminding yourself why you think they are the best thing since sliced bread. So really you are doing them and yourself a favor by figuring out even a little bit of how you can make yourself happy because that directly benefits your partner too.
Wow thank you for taking moments to write this. So much helpful, I really didnāt think about writing handwritten letters and ya haha nothing emo (cuz so uncool lol). May be little greeting cards and handmade stuff to send - lovin it!
All the other responses on this thread are bullshit compared to this one. Great suggestions! š„°
You have a lot of time at hand! That's right. š
Ya I never did have the luxury of so much time but now that I am trying to keep a work boundary and be more productive at work - . I do have sometime at hand and in one way I like it but want to make it more qualitative you see :)
Get a travel rewards credit card, stick to an airline for the loyalty points and book regular flights to see your partner. Collect all those miles! :D Sometimes meet midway in a city/place of your choice as a short vacation. All of the above will keep you busy, plus will keep the missing to a minimum, plus frequent vacations are a win!
1. Do things that will help your future together. 2. Plan a vacation together. 3. Watch a movie, read a book, or plan to learn a new hobby together (something you both can do, but doesnāt have to be the same time) 4. Read the 5 Love Languages and subscribe to their newsletter on ways to keep the love strong for each other. 5. Find your own tribe and group of friends in your city. Connect and plan a group event with your common friends for another city. 6. Surprise your spouse in-person in that city. 7. Create a gift basket and mail to your spouse. 8. Find something your spouse needs help with, and try to support or help solve that problem. (ie. they hate doing the dishes - find someone to help with their dishes. it helps them, they would appreciate it, and who knows, they might have more time to spend with you)
Finding another one
Nice advice dickhead
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