Health & WellnessApr 14, 2019
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Low Balled couple... Troubles ahead

Hi all, Me and my wife are planning a kid sometime in the next two years. We both have low TCs and we had started prepping for companies. I don't mention her but having a low TC bothers me a lot as well. However ,she is the one who always throws tantrums around the house and gets irritated very quickly. In her defense , she is getting a lot of flak at work and manager is an arsehole. My wife recently flunked a Microsoft phone screen and was extremely upset. A week later I flunked Walmart. Yesterday she got mad at me and started to rant. I could not take it anymore and said that I am worried and scared as well. This was the first time she realised I am hurt and now she is scared in turn. I try to motivate her at all times, but she now knows I am equally vulnerable. Low TC has never affected me like it did yesterday . I am completely demotivated at work , I Dodge sprint updates and have a hard time concentrating. I was not well since last one month and that added to my frustration. I am extremely drained out by all this. But I am quite sure I am not depressed. Any thoughts are extremely welcome.

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Oath Atinlay2 Apr 14, 2019

A kid sounds exactly like what you need 🙄

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Perhaps , but we can't sustain at such a low income.

Roku clarencee Apr 14, 2019

He was being sarcastic

Lending Club LChottie Apr 14, 2019

Leetcoding, man.

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Even she has started leetcoding. To be frank some of leet frustration is deflected at me. I don't know whether to laugh at it or lament.

Amazon CEQGCS31 Apr 14, 2019

TC or GTFO

Google CodeRust Apr 15, 2019

He said: low, like maybe 300k.

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GardenBish Apr 14, 2019

I haven't had kids but I don't think you should have a kid until you have been stably been taking care of your own life first. Good luck

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Thank you. My wife and I are of the same view.

Amazon Jеff Bezоs Apr 14, 2019

Nobody who can’t solve a leetcode hard in 30 min should have a kid. It wouldn’t be fair to the kid.

Google lenajava Apr 14, 2019

Not everybody needs to be at FANG. Just relax and enjoy life. Also leetcode however not to the stress point

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Frankly not aiming FAANG. But some place where both are TC s are decent.

Amazon LoanerBadg Apr 15, 2019

What is a decent TC for you? And how did you come up with that number?

Oath xxxcd Apr 14, 2019

I would suggest couple therapy. From the description, there are a lot of anxiety, but neither of you can pinpoint where that anxiety is coming from. Therapist can help you draw that out. You know there are times where you avoid things because it makes you uncomfortable. A therapist asks the kind of questions that put you in the spotlight and you are forced to confront your problem.

CVS Health DhinChak Apr 14, 2019

^ this. See a therapist.

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Might be, I will try to bring it up with her.

Amazon lkui Apr 14, 2019

i am sorry you are going through tough time. i have a kid and it is true that they tend to take majority of free time. i also suggest you to do more of leetcoding. interview is just another skill, more you do, better you get. Do discuss openly the current situation with your wife and come up with plan to tackle whatever the problems you guys have, whether it is perceived low TC or others. Don’t lose hope, keep believing things will get better and take actions to get there

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

Thank you.

Amazon lkui Apr 14, 2019

btw, why do you think you have low tc? compare to whom? some posts on blind are either extremely exceptional or lie (troll). don’t let them affect you. also, there are so many people who live happily with low or decent tc.

Roku clarencee Apr 14, 2019

You’re never going to making enough money, if this is your mindset. You’ll hit one goal then get depressed that you haven’t hit the next.

CVS Health DhinChak Apr 14, 2019

This is it!

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 15, 2019

I get the point but this is not the case here. I was not worried about TC a lot when I was not married. Only later I realised how little it is for both of us.

IBM bbw lover Apr 14, 2019

90% of the TC posted in this forum are fake. They are posted by New grads who don't have work assigned to them or obsessive recent grads who are in the process of leetcoding There's an idiot called jomatech on YouTube who has thousands of college kids as followers who think blind is a place to get inspired and know their real worth.

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 14, 2019

I know blind lies. I am not taking Blind as reference. I have some idea of the local market as well.

IBM bbw lover Apr 15, 2019

What's your family TC and where do you live?

OpenText FBstockLOL Apr 14, 2019

My coworkers were low TC and married as well. They got out of it by working hard and doing well at work. Higher TC will naturally come.

Barclays PLC dwnmtivate OP Apr 15, 2019

Thank you. It's the only way.