Low social status of engs, 2/18 update

Feb 18, 2018 69 Comments

Posted about the low status of engineers a while back. There were some serious responses so thought I'd follow up.

I spent some more time in bars and clubs to observe, experiment, and learn. Current general idea is that the girls look for more immediate and apparent value. So the common strengths of engs mean nothing because she doesn't benefit in a clear way immediately, direct prostitution excepted.

Some examples of (socially acceptable) immediate value that get a lot of female attention:
- host/organizer/promoter of the event or of a group: like the frat party doorman, opens doors to events and does the legwork
- the camera guy; pro photography is expensive, so flirting with the camera man to get pics throughout the night can easily be worth hundreds of dollars
- the musicians/dj's: defacto event promoters, access to drugs and a varied lifestyle, etc
- tall guys: rare enough that women become the chasers

More average height guys without the above value were more likely be on the sidelines no matter how stylish/peacocked/good looking.

Some have mentioned engs who bartend on the weekends. That's a significant undertaking especially when leetcode beckons but so are all the paths mentioned so far.

Online seems to be a source of many marriages now but I'm seeing a lot of strict preferences such as for height.

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TOP 69 Comments
  • Salesforce rcno01
    Feb 18, 2018 0
  • Airbnb / Eng
    🍫🍪🍩h

    Airbnb Eng

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    500 Startups
    🍫🍪🍩hmore
    what the hell is this lol
    Feb 18, 2018 14
    • Airbnb / Eng
      🍫🍪🍩h

      Airbnb Eng

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      500 Startups
      🍫🍪🍩hmore
      I dunno OP... I don't think your job is the thing holding you back in that part of your life.
      Feb 18, 2018
    • Oracle ludus
      "I dunno" is all airbnb knows
      Feb 27, 2018
  • Microsoft jdfw70
    Oh god. No wonder you aren’t getting any.
    Feb 18, 2018 1
    • Oracle ludus
      A surer assumption is that you'll never do better than a fug.
      Feb 27, 2018
  • Salesforce jxhLb
    This is one of the worst things I’ve read on Blind. And that’s a high bar.
    Feb 18, 2018 2
    • New ClIe61
      I’m literally considering washing my eyes with vinegar to prevent seeing horseshit like this ever again
      Feb 18, 2018
    • Salesforce rcno01
      At least, OP post made me laugh haha
      Feb 18, 2018
  • LinkedIn Cdmj46
    lol
    Feb 18, 2018 0
  • Microsoft XKBH16
    Your findings tells me more about the type of girls you are chasing than anything else! I wouldn’t want to date a girl who fits the profile you are portraying!
    Feb 18, 2018 0
  • Oracle jceg8
    Maybe try to actually, I dunno, talk to women with the intention of getting to know them. Rather than trying to read and figure out women. And please don’t write a oracle manifesto.
    Feb 18, 2018 1
    • Oracle poock
      OP
      May try to I dunno read and comprehend before replying.
      Feb 18, 2018
  • NAVEX Global LndMnstr
    I am a woman, and I would be impressed by a guy who was an engineer. It’s not a low status job at all.
    Feb 18, 2018 6
    • Cruise Automation / Eng
      I'm a woman engineer and I only date engineers because I know we'll be a fairly good match there - we can understand each other - and I find it harder to click with other types, especially finance.
      Feb 19, 2018
    • Oracle poock
      OP
      Yes engs are usually intelligent but this thread is about SMV.
      Feb 25, 2018
  • Amazon GANMan
    Wait so.. women who hang out at clubs think that the club lifestyle defines social "value"? Color me surprised. You are meeting women the wrong way. Try your social network (real world), activities and hobbies outside of clubs and club-like bars, and online mechanisms that reward not being a douche or socially inept. (I am assuming you are not a douche and have basic social skills - though I fear this may be too optimistic from your reactions here)
    Feb 18, 2018 6
    • Cruise Automation / Eng
      Tbh promoter types can be douchey since your job is literally to get girls to go clubbing
      Feb 19, 2018
    • Oracle ludus
      Interesting, why douchey? Whatever they're doing seems to work?
      Feb 27, 2018
  • Tinder / Eng
    hfyehb

    Tinder Eng

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    Microsoft
    hfyehbmore
    Dude clubs and bars are shitty places to meet women. I remember your last post where when you said you were an SWE and the woman said 'oh, so just like everyone else?' Why would you even want to date a woman that acts in this rude manner? There are some great gals out there that won't do this immature shit. I wouldn't even bother dating these kinds of women you are describing.

    Honestly OP just move to NYC the bay is such a crapshoot for men based on what I hear from blind.
    Feb 18, 2018 2
    • Oracle poock
      OP
      I've been to NYC, it's not so different to the point of them having different reactions to major professions. The eng job is socially isolated compared to most others and it shows, just like you can detect the salesman in someone.
      Feb 18, 2018
    • Tinder / Eng
      hfyehb

      Tinder Eng

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      Microsoft
      hfyehbmore
      No but at least people won't have really shitty stereotypes of SWE like people do here. Also, gender ratio is in your favor.
      Feb 18, 2018

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