Today during my 1 on 1 with manager we were discussing some technical decisions I was making. We got into a bit of an argument. My manager doesn't care about quality and always talking about delivery. I got a bit heated. My manager slapped me on my back and called me "code monkey" while laughing. I stayed quiet for the rest of the meeting due to holding myself. Couldn't do any work after 1 on 1. Went home. What should I do Blind? I want to report to hr but I don't know if hr will take my side. Or is it time to vote with my feet and leave?
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Report to HR. You are being discriminated against and you have a legal case.
No, this is stupid. What discrimination? At worst its an insult. It's obvious that the manager and you have different mindsets that make it hard to work together. Just vote with your feet and go to a different team.
He is being discriminated against because monkeys are a legally protected class.
That sounds about right honestly, exactly how I feel at Msft compared to when I worked for Amazon and my work was actually respected. :(
Stop being a code monkey and get back coding lol đ
Provide more details like a transcript of the discussion, or specifically what you both disagreed on. You wont get any meaningful advice without meaningful context
Well can't give too many details because to protect privacy and nda on project
You kind of gave up privacy already stating that your manager called you a code monkey... You're probably easily identifiable right now unless he calls everyone code monkeys during his 1 on 1s
I'm confused. Did you believe you weren't a code monkey before that?
I think there could be a communication gap. The manager could think that âcode monkeyâ is a person, who thinks about code only and doesnât care about business needs or prioritizes code over business needs. Regardless how your manager called you, do you want to work in a team, where good engineering isnât respected?
I agree there seems to be some context missing. The backslap and laugh suggest it was intended in an amiable manner and making a point about perspective /approach rather than meant as a slur. Op can still be offended if they want (and people can say horrible things even when the intent was nonnegative) but it may be worth considering what exactly the intent was. Anyway as ^ said, independent of this event op and manager seem to have âirreconcilable differencesâ, and itâs apparent in the way op describes their manager.
Report to your skip
With nothing in writing you wonât have a solid case going to HR... Fighting your direct manager is usually not a battle you will win
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