Manager is suspicious that I'm trying to dip. In our 1:1s he's being overly nice and promising that things will be better in 2020. He has a high opinion of me and it's clear that I'm his favorite. I am expecting an external offer that will give me close to a 100K raise. I feel really bad. But things got bad last year and I've made up my mind. But this is the first time I'm going to disappoint someone professionally. Any advice? Keep it short and sweet? Should I invite him out for lunch and tell him? I was his first SDE to join his new team. We've grown quite a bit since. I'm basically his right hand man. TC 240 YOE 4.5
Once it becomes reality, you should keep it short. Tell him the truth of what led you to the decision, and close things nicely. There is a fair chance you will both stumble upon each other in the future. Good luck!
Keep emotions out of it. You made a decision that’s better for your long term career. Stick to it. Promises are free, money and rewards show what your manager truly feels. Do not under any circumstance tell the manager you plan to leave before you’re ready to officially put in your notice. You will regret it.
Yup. Haven't told him yet.
Plot twist: he is on blind and sees this post
I won't have anything to hide pretty soon :). If he does see this post and somehow makes the connection, I hope he realizes I do care about him.
Hey, life happens and most managers that I had similar experiences with congratulated me and wished me luck in my new journey. Also, as someone looking at joining Amazon, could you explain what a "bad year" might look like?
Dude I'd stay at Splunk. You guys have amazing wlb right? A bad year for me was no direction with product, understaffed although we hired a lot of weak juniors, too many projects, no proper engineering principles followed, talented engineers leaving, management feeling like whip crackers, too much detail on process and operational excellence, and worst of all minimal comp increase.
Thank you for the explanation. Yeah, I have been reading a lot of posts lately and just needed to know what I was getting into after considering the TC
Absolutely nothing would stop me from a 100k bump
200k?
This guy blinds.
Your manager is doing his own job during 1:1. Don’t fall for any trap. Maintain professionalism. That’s it.
^this
He will hardly notice your absence. Jus quit
It’s fine and all to retain a semblance of humanity in today’s cutthroat mercenary shamelessly tc driven culture, but you still do have to look out for what’s best for you. Your leaving is a professional decision, your bad feelings are personal. Keep the two separate, you can’t make a bad professional decision out of a sense of personal guilt. Explain the professional decision, then explain the personal regret, then move on. If your relationship really meaningful and if they’re professional they should understand and accept it. Source: I’ve often tried to be good to the people around me (managers, company, reports), and learned that in some places it’s unnecessary and in others it’s detrimental to my well-being. Yes in the vast majority of cases it’s the right thing to do but not always.
Why do you feel bad?
Well he'll feel bad right? We have a very close relationship. I think we're more than a professional relationship. I was his first SDE at Amazon. He was my HM.
He’ll bounce from the company too eventually and still be in your network, don’t feel bad about it treat it as temporary separation