There's this Asian girl in my team who tends to over-interpret people, publicly display frustration, cry often at work, and bring the pity into work. She's been so for a year. She was stressed both personally and professionally. She started reporting to me when I inherited the team 3 months ago. Despite being a good worker, her behaviours were counterproductive to her and the team. Previously I tried to comfort her but didn't work. Then I addressed the issue in performance review officially to ask her keep her conduct professional. She's unprofessionally unreceptive, became and remained emotional, and cried twice in the meeting. What do I do?
Ask the entire team to cry along in camaredrie
Lol
Talk to HR and make sure you CYA heavily.
I did. And wrote a memo of what happened. Supersensitive in my place. Especially I'm a male manager.
Stop making asian girls cry you jerk.
Stop liking your own comment you narcissist.
I didn't intend to. And I did everything as objective and constructive as I could. I'm an Asian too. Trust me, I didn't want her cry at all.
I’ve been in the same situation before. It could be that the current role is too stressful to her, or that she doesn’t get along with her team. I’d suggest you help her explore what other internal opportunities available at Amazon.
What wrong with her behavior? Ain’t all women behave like that?
She’s about to find a box of uncounted sexual harassment votes
Sorry to hear that... I've got a 45 year old white male who cries and gets emotional and ruins team morale and isn't a good worker...
Sorry buddy. It would have been easier if she doesn't perform.
I think she just wants you to hear her out. Like you said, she is an “emotional” person so if you want to communicate with her, appeal to her emotional side. If she feels you’re emotionally on her side, things might improve Easier said than done though, so if it doesn’t work, find a different alternative Addressing it in performance review obviously will make it worse. Try to make her feel at home and talk to her as if you’re on her side first, before resorting to “official” tactics. This will make things worse.
Yes. That's what I did. Given her personal situation, in a way she's looking for a dad/brother at work who could emotionally entertain her. But to be honest, with all good itentions, this is not my job. I have a big team to take care of and get a lot of things done.
Oh for crying out- It’s her get out of jail free card. If you can’t have tough conversations about your work and your performance (I’d certainly call it a performance) then you aren’t a good fit and should probably face your sensitivities sooner rather than later. Else you may get “aren’t a good fit” right out the door.
I had a very similar situation in my team, where a colleague would start crying for what seemed like no apparent reason to me. At some point I found myself in a situation when I didn't even want to review her PRs because she would get upset, not even talking about project discussions or sprint plannings. I'm a girl too, and consider myself empathetic, but this was too much for a workspace. Eventually she just left the team.
Ask your HRBP for help. As a manager this is the sort of thing they are there to help address.
Our HRBP talked to her earlier the year. She didn't trust the HRBP.
It’s not really up to her, is it?