Devastated after consecutive breakups

Apr 26 16 Comments

To keep it short, went through 2 horrible breakups in a short time frame. Was extremely serious about both partners but didn't work out and feels like I took the worst of psychological impact in both cases.

Male and not in my twenties anymore so have an existential dread of time running out to make matters worse.

Are there any support resources to keep my head above water?

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    QKXo60

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    I’m a male in my 30s too. Why dread time running out? Keep chilling and never forget to share TC.
    Apr 26 0
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    dontbe3vil

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    Create multiple sources of joy in life. If you're only looking to your relationship for fulfilment, then every breakup feels epic and devastating. Join a sports league. Pick up hiking, biking, yoga, squash. Try learning a new skill - machine learning or horse riding or whatever.
    Apr 26 1
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    birbbirb

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    Hit the gym
    Apr 26 1
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    rroobish

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    Does your work provide an eap system. Looking for therapists there might be a good start.

    Take some time to work on yourself, and your feelings and come to terms with them.

    Good luck!
    Apr 26 1
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    lolololol0
    How long were you dating them? And why do you feel you took the brunt of it? How old are you? And what's the rush?

    I've been through two brutal breakups in the past several years. Divorce with child abandonment, mental illness, drugs. Then borderline personality disorder and emotional abuse (I'm no victim, but it is what it is). Gnarly shit. I thought I wouldn't make it through that last one, but I did. It took a year to get my head straight and start again.

    Then I met a beautiful, amazing, kind, talented women. We dated for 2.5 years and it was amazing. It didn't work out, but nobody hurt anyone. It just wasn't meant to be.

    We had a very peaceful, mutually supportive break up. And I'm ok. I'm on the other side. Everything I got from that relationship was well worth the pain of losing it.

    Things get better in the long run if you just take it one day at a time. You're gonna make it too. Keep yourself occupied. Focus on everything you learned in those relationships that will make you more prepared for the next one. Improve yourself a little bit everyday.
    Apr 26 0