Woman single closing 30, in Tech. Since I have read many many posts where they say we Indians in US are always gonna move back home but that day never comes. So, I wanted to share my experience. Life was good there.No visa issues, was a personal choice. Moved after few years of working. It took me a bit to adjust, may be I am not done with that yet, but now that I can say I feel much much better. My reasons: Jobs : Scene is good in the US but it's not bad in India. If you got a decent profile, you can crack. Understanding my priorities in life in my 30s- 50s- the harder I thought, the more I felt strongly that money is not gonna rule my 30s. My own happiness in small things would rule over stocks Dating : Scene sucked, found it very hard to find a guy I could think of settling down, along with few breakups. Matrimony sucked too coz I don't like it much. Finally de-prioritized the idea of finding a partner. Not saying it'll be different in India. But when the right comes along, I'll know. Food : Do I need say anymore? The spices, the street food, the taste I never found in the Doordash butter chicken...mehhhh ! Social : I am friendly and I loved the American culture, it taught me a lot. It is a lovely place. But I could never find myself as a part of the community, not at parties, not at QFCs. No more waiting for the once in a while Bolly DJ nights. Marriage: I don't think a weekday worklife and a weekend hike and grocery with a man of my dreams drives me. I think life in India would be much less mechanical. I want some noise :P Kids: I want my kid ( if I get there) to see it all, learn to survive that helped me to navigate life in my own journey, not have to go to a community garden to celebrate birthdays with Indian families. Saw my brother's family. The kid knew piano, skating, swimming and many more. But I want mine to know how to play with his/her friends at that age, be within the Indian culture. Family : I am not super close to my family, but it is helping me to heal in this transition and post my last heartbreak. Also the plants at home :) Visa Issues : Dusted, phew !! Still adjusting: The pollution :- bad bad bad The traffic : ahhhh when lockdown is offer, dunno what's gonna happen The infrastructure: I know, I need to accept this for years to come :( Hygiene on the road : :( (((((((( Easy wine and avocados :((( P.S. Mom was showing me some matrimonial profiles based out of the US. I didn't want that track anymore. That's when I realized that I am good to write the post. TC: let that not be here but what do I do with this pile of Black Friday warm clothes !! Edit : Thank you everyone for reading and for the encouragement.
Kudos for taking the plunge. 👏
Jokes apart. I really appreciate what you think.
Haha, no issues dude. Btw, I quite liked the Gangs of Wasseypur :)
Well done. How many years did you work for in the US? Did you complete MS in the US? If so, how much was the education loan approximately?
I think OP would have gone to the US through her company.
The part I loved the most was “I don't think a weekday worklife and a weekend hike and grocery with a man of my dreams drives me.” Lmao! Described every other tech couple perfectly!
Isn't that the same with every other couple?
Only If you live in the place where you can hike.
Wow! Good luck!
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Late 20s and single, you barely lived in US and hardly have any ties to the place to make it difficult to move back. Your experience of moving back is not going to make the population, you think you are speaking to, pull the trigger
Some are always going to respond in criticism. So, I won't say anything. The post says single so yeah my no ties means - no family that would block me and you can't judge my ties. I don't see how a longer tie would make a difference to me. Rest, the population you are talking about would sure Disagree and Commit
Years of working in Amazon has made him/ her salty.
Thanks for sharing your story. Hope you find some peace as well as the excitement you are looking for. I really understand the need of noise you are saying. I stayed in Singapore for a month and trust me, the rule following culture frustrated me. I started feeling as a pawn.
Singapore is a concrete jungle. I don't understand why people want to immigrate to Singapore (usa/can/aus even India are better options if you have a good job).. the country is way too small, expensive and lacks the fun factor
The weather is horribly humid as well, made me sweaty all the time
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Thank you :)
yes and yes I don't mind.