I have recently joined a start-up from an MNC at the same time I am also getting married. My fiancé usually looks down upon the companies other than FAANG. And since the startup I am working for has a small team too, he makes fun of it and it just frustrates me every time. My focus is mostly on the building something and there's a lot of scope to learn for me here but all he want is for me to get into FAANG as soon as possible. It just makes me sad how totally different mindsets we have and how to live a life long with such person who doesn't have respect for the decisions that I take and doesn't support me.
Your fiancé is a dick OP
You know the answer yourself . You are just looking for validation . Time to get a better fiancé .
Which company does your fiance work for? Is this another one of those "prestige" related story?
Firstly, sorry to hear that. But it doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship. Things don’t change suddenly when you get married. You will always be pressured to do certain things. Which company you work for is so innocuous and meaningless in the scope of life. If that’s what matters to them so much, they have their priorities wrong. I’d suggest leaving. Normally I’m all for talking things through but this seems to stem from deeper problems your fiancé has and is insecure about.
Last I checked, many FAANG ex-employees are also working at and even founding startups. Your fiance is indeed not being a good partner in your growth. It's 2020 - everyone knows that the path to (and away from) a FAANG is not a single one. I won't recommend you rethink your relationship (someone already suggested that), but I do recommend you share your thoughts with him, ignore any negative/mocking response from him, and do what you need and want to do for your own growth. Clearly he wants no part in your tech growth.
God.. don’t marry him. working at big companies is not for everybody and if you are married to an stupid asshole on top of that, your life is going to be hell.
Won’t be long before he disrespects you because you got old. Three words for you. Assholes never change. Make your own choice.
OP - You sound like a woman to me. Please dont proceed with this. My honest advice is to call off the engagement. Something tells me you are Indian (because you work at Infosys). I know family pressure may prevent you from calling off but you gotta do what you have to for your own life. Its your life and you have to own it. Additionally, you have to be super honest with your spouse about how you feel so he gets the chance to change if he wants to.. If you don’t see the scope for him to change, I’d say call this off. You are better than that and there is no need to compromise!
Derision and contempt are absolute deal breakers in a relationship. Is it like he is scoffing at you and making fun and shaking his head or being rude (or worse, insulting you)? Or is he just teasing a little because that's his communication style? If it's the latter, it is fixable if he can listen to you carefully and respect your feelings and career path. Anything g less than that, sadly, at the very least postpone the engagement if not break it off entirely. Mutual respect is non-negotiable in a partnership.
Indian spotted. Cancel the engagement is my honest advice. Life’s too short to put up with that shit. Find someone who loves and respects you.
It's too late. He loves me for sure I can say. But has an obsession with FAANG and think that's the only great career path
It’s not too late. You could be trapped soon in a miserable marriage, then have to go through the stress and unpleasantness of a divorce. The timing is right to re-evaluate your choices. You say he loves you, but I believe that’s what you want to believe, not what is necessarily true. Tellingly, you didn’t say that you love him.