Indians who plan to move their parents to USA/Canada, how do you expect them to manage?

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I work in Seattle area, and looking forward to have the option of parents moving to USA if and when I get my GC (~10 years) or if I can move to Canada get my PR, and invite them on PR/supervisa. Seen a few posts where other folks are exploring similar options https://www.teamblind.com/post/Move-to-US-or-stay-in-Canada-nViyJJvM

I have a few concerns based on my experiences when they visit for a few months:
1. Living arrangements: Difficult to manage spouse, kids and parents in a 2BR apartment, need to buy a townhouse or a detached house. Lets say TC and money solves this problem.
2. Keeping spouse happy/ inviting their parents as well, need bigger TC and house to solve this problem.
3. Parents have a social circle, relatives back in India and they will be bored here. I am not sure how they will be able to mingle in Bellevue area. Anyone have any experiences around this?
4. Parents dependent on us for every singe thing. Back in India they know how to get groceries/ travel to other cities etc. Here we have to accompany them for a walk to the park nearby, they will not be able to communicate in English to other people on the road if they lose their way.
5. Similar to 3, how to go on trips with/without them? They don't like places like Vegas/ appreciate beaches/ cabin in snow/hiking trips. But we cannot leave them at home while we go a on a long weekend trip as they won't be able to figure out grocery, maintenance and might get super bored.
6. Lack of food/restaurant options, will need to hire a cook. Need to hire a cleaner, costs for insurance etc. Again this can be solved by money.
7. As someone suggested, healthcare costs in USA/ costs + wait times in Canada. Expensive insurance + out of pocket costs.

Immigrant from India, please share your relevant experiences!

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  • Grofers
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    Blinder learns why international parents do not move to US.

    I cited the same reasons, as you did in another comment, for moving to USA last year for an MBA; was shut-down by Indians already at HSW that we over-emphasize on these reasons and that most Indians at elite universities are returning to India.

    Consider returning to India - most of your issues you have listed here will get solved.
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    • Grofers
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      People all ages all over the world died from COVID. Its a function of healthy life habits - we have fat Indians and fat Americans and these groups particularly suffered in both the countries.

      I'm not 'delusional' of the harms, I'm just stating that these reasons are not as big as we make them out to be. I justified them when I was desperate to move, but when time came to actually move, I realised maybe other things mean more to me. That was my reality and it is different from what you want from life. You do you.
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    • My healthy cousin aged 30 died from delta wave because the hospital refused to admit him. This never happened in US.
      People don't die of pollution at the age of 20, the effects are slow and devastating.
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  • Amazon
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    bolobolo
    You are forgetting biggest point, healthcare and its cost for them. No travel insurance will be helpful
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  • Op
    Your troubles define USA life.
    Canada is 180 degre opposite if u live in big cities.
    In fact other than driving which is alternative to Uber - parents r quite independent.
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  • Amazon
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    Then take frequent trips to India. Dont consider moving parents at this age to US. In india you can afford a lot better standard of living for a lower TC as your expenses will be in rupees not dollars. Do some research on indian TCs. Here you dont get household help. There you can afford multiple helps for parents or kids and wont even need to think about things like cooking, cleaning etc.
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    • Amazon
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      Lol and not have life of own. You need to set priorities. More so for your wife. Maybe the monetary loss of not doing the job can be a valid reasoning. Afterall she is a working professional
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    • @microsoft: that itself is the reason for not living with them under the same roof. have you thought about how your wife will feel losing her identity to sewa your folks and the kids? if she doesn't comply on leaving her job and doing sewa, your parents will crib non stop, and the peace at home will be destroyed. you gotta set your priorities straight. lose your life in sewa of parents and kids or make your own life according to what you want
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