Need advice for improving communication

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Jun 28, 2019 15 Comments

Two specific areas I’m trying to get better:
- when challenged in team discussions while presenting my ideas. most of the time I don’t have the time to prepare in advance, but need to think quickly, and frame the answers. I don’t do this quickly enough and conversation control gets yanked.

- framing concise replies to people who are not involved with the technical details.

(non-native English speaker, introvert, x-factor: socially inept)

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  • Fox News / Eng
    HannityS

    Fox News Eng

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    15 YOE in Java, includes 8 YOE in Android.
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    1) you don't have to be the smartest person in the room.
    2) speech is silver, silence is gold. unless you feel compelled to raise your point, don't.
    3) observe how others manage and train yourself into that frame of mind.
    4) most importantly, keep it simple, concise, precise. don't stress.
    Jun 28, 2019 1
    • New / Eng
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      New Eng

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      Bank of America
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      Yoe: 🦏 TC: 🐐 Still not serious about life ...
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      OP
      Great points. Thanks Sean!
      Jun 28, 2019
  • Apple / Eng
    tWBu16

    Go to company page Apple Eng

     tWBu16
    Speaking: Speak slowly and loudly and clearly

    Writing: write concisely. The way you do that is by using conjugated verbs and making sure the noun doing the action is the subject and not the predicate. Good: “i wrote this code to fix the issue.” Bad: “this code was written by me to fix the issue”
    Jun 28, 2019 2
    • Speaking advice is spot on - slow, calm, confident and people will listen
      Jun 28, 2019
    • Also it helps to repeat what others say, as that makes then feel heard and then they shut up. “Susan’s concern that taking a dep on the food is valid, but to Jeremy’s point earlier timing is critical and this was the most expedient path “

      Also, never be defensive. if you don’t know something say so. And if someone has a valid point, let them know that.
      Jun 28, 2019
  • For the first point, if its your idea, you probably should have time to guess what someone would say against it.

    For the second, it sounds to me like you tend to give long-winded, non-direct answers.

    Try this:
    1. Learn to summarize ANYTHING into ONE SENTENCE. Next time someone asks you something, onoy give yourself one sentence to answer. (Take your time before you speak)
    2. To keep control of the conversation, keep people wanting more. Once you learn to give one sentence answers, start giving answers that make people ask you a question. Provocative, tabloid cover answers. Keep them wanting more.
    Jun 28, 2019 3
    • IBM - No one asked you. I Have the ABILITY to summarize, but that doesnt mean i have to. I was being verbose for their benefit 🙄
      Jun 28, 2019
    • New / Eng
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      New Eng

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      Yoe: 🦏 TC: 🐐 Still not serious about life ...
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      OP
      Interesting point about Elon ... I now recall seeing videos where his deliveries are not super smooth know-it-all, but a bit rough. True, nothing beats shipping!
      Jun 28, 2019
  • Google
    illbeyourp

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    illbeyourp
    There's a great book that might be interesting to you: Crucial Conversations.
    Jun 28, 2019 1
    • New / Eng
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      New Eng

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      Yoe: 🦏 TC: 🐐 Still not serious about life ...
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      OP
      Thanks - I am listening to this one and another called Non-Violent communication on audible.
      Jun 28, 2019
  • SAP
    doingStuff

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    doingStuff
    I like it HannityS

    I always, in team forum, assume the team together will be much smarter than I. When asked “hard” questions, I ask it back to the team.
    Jun 28, 2019 0