Nosy Coworkers

Undisclosed WhileTrue?
Sep 6, 2018 19 Comments

How to deal with nosy coworkers ( who are men) who are super interested in my dating life and just cannot seem to take a clue that I am not interested in telling them . All the time they try making fun of me that “oh you have still not found perfect guy to marry ! “ and a lot more bully. I don’t want to go through the route of reporting to HR as I don’t have hard evidence against them and it will only backfire me. One of them is my team lead.


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TOP 19 Comments
  • Liferay, Inc. QYGO46
    Stop giving hints tell them directly
    Sep 6, 2018 1
    • Google liam
      Sep 6, 2018
  • VCA


    Epic Systems Corporation
    What he said is already harassment
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • Undisclosed 69E3
    Tell them you are dominant at home and looking for subs and can’t find one yet. See how the interest goes.
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • Maintain a record of everything with timestamps and location. Some jerks will start ill-treating you when you ask them to keep it professional. You've gotta have proof of how your team lead or manager changed their behavior towards you.
    Sep 6, 2018 2
    • Undisclosed WhileTrue?
      Yes my team lead started changing task every few hours verbally and started lashing out on me saying you still didn’t finish. Specially when he didn’t mention the deadline and never gave clarity of what is to be done . Yes this guy seems to be interested in me and I made it very clear I am not interested and since then it is toxic situation. I don’t have evidence against him but I sense his intensions and interest.
      Sep 6, 2018
    • Sorry to hear that! Some folks just can't separate work and dating life.

      If you have the chance to switch your team, it may help and will be the easiest way to diffuse the situation. If not, please maintain record and let your discontent be known to him subtly.

      Especially the change in behavior with very specific points needs to be documented so that you can hold him accountable for his actions later on. Vague accusations will put you in bad light and absolve him of any wrongdoing.
      Sep 6, 2018
  • Undisclosed Boomrah
    Yep, just tell them it is not okay. One warning is enough, then go to HR. If they don’t listen, write it up somewhere public.
    Sep 6, 2018 1
    • Jacobs URjf77
      Skip hr they represent management not workers
      Sep 8, 2018
  • BMW / Data

    BMW Data

    I’m from the government, I’m here to help.
    I’d report that shit. Freaking Neanderthals over there.
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • Microsoft StMichael
    Tell them you are dating a former navy seal who is a cop and an expert mma fighter.
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • T-Mobile Sqrd24
    You need to say it while looking them in the eye and not breaking your gaze. Saying it in passing is not conveying your intent.
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • Upstart imherenow
    The loosers are probably interested in you. Tell them to knock it off or you'll go to HR. Although HR might not help much, mentioning it would probably be enough.
    Sep 6, 2018 0
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Uber Boomrah
      Workplace isn’t where women should be seeking any kind of “attention”. It is not about being PC, it is about knowing what is professional. Behaviors like this one can lead to a ton of bias later on, best advice is to sidestep and take care of it officially.
      Sep 6, 2018
    • Dude you are among the same losers and aptly fit the description of the person OP mentioned about.
      Sep 6, 2018


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